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Aceofbase (original poster member #42458) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, March 17th, 2014
A married co-worker who sits near me had a friend stop over and talk to her. The friend indicated that she was single and that one day she and another married female friend went out. She indicted that her friend was in a marriage were the husband is 10 years older than her and he doesn’t do many things with her anymore. She also indicated that her friend’s husband doesn’t like her. (you will know why soon) Then she told the story how she and her friend went boating one day with some of her male friends. Her friend told her husband that she would be home by 5:00. Well they did go out and she did get home by 5:00 but it was 5:00 in the morning. There are not many things that happen after midnight that are good for a married person to do without their spouse. .
I wasn’t supposed to here this conversation but I am glad I did. I am reading the “Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass and I am in the last 3 or 4 chapters of this book and boy did this story hit home with the messages in that book. This sad story lets me empathize with a similar story that involved my wife. The unstable foundation was already set when my parents past away 1 year and 1 month apart from one another. I was still in the my teenage kids need my stability in the home and we had very different work schedules. I think very probable that my wife was complaining to her friends that “I didn’t like to do things with her” to her single friends that were “not friends of our marriage”
DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R
Happiness is a choice.
Freebygrace ( member #42484) posted at 8:33 PM on Monday, March 17th, 2014
That's interesting. I think some people don't set good boundaries. I would never even desire to go out with single friends until 5 am. I would rather sleep! LOL
But some people lack those boundaries. Why did I have to marry one of them?
Regardless of parents dying, teenagers, and work schedules vows should be kept. Especially when things are not smooth. Bonding together during times of stress and mourning especially is why you have a partner!
If you didn't like to do things with your wife, then she should've stayed home with you. Get a hobby that she can do near you, like read or something. Going outside the marriage is not a solution. I'm sorry you have gone through all of this.
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 52 ( lane444) married 26 years. 16 kids from 28-2 years old
OW #1 my friend, 1st year of marriage dday 3/17
OW #2 his ex gf in 1993, he claims ONS Dday 10/17
OW #3 my BFF NC broken 2x ( after 17 years of false R)
DIVORCIED
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