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Neznayou (original poster member #40654) posted at 8:53 AM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
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I have checked out some of the links in The Healing Library. I am reading Relationship Rescue (which I have found to be tremendously helpful). We have a stack of relationship books (How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair, The Five Love Languages, Love Busters, etc.). However, I am looking for more. Specifically, I am looking for podcasts about surviving infidelity. I've found a couple of fairly good ones which deal with marriage, but I listen to them and just think "Wow, if only I had heard/ listened to this message a few years ago, how different things might have been" or "That's great, but I don't think that covers/ addresses the sh!t-storm I'm trying to clean up after."
What have you found outside our SI community, IC/ MC, and the oft-recommended books which have helped you help yourself, your spouse, your reconciliation, and/ or your relationship?
Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973
Wedding: April 9, 1994
Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
I do not have it all together.
EaglesWings ( member #41156) posted at 12:11 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
Get on Beyond affairs.com. Tab seminars, choose teleseminars. They have dozens of archived seminars that I have found tremendously useful. Initially I listened daily, now only occasionally for a "tuneup". Hope they are helpful to you as well!!
Just one beggar telling another beggar where to find bread....
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 2:26 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
Resources are ok though we do discourage linking to other sites with forums to avoid problems 
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Flatlined ( member #27637) posted at 2:35 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
I spoke with the wife of this organization several times by phone in the year after DDay. Her husband had a three year infidelity with her best friend. They have authored a book, Unfaithful. (Don't know if she still takes personal phone calls but she was tremendously helpful to me.)
Hope & Healing
http://www.hopeandhealing.us/canacoupletrulyheal.html
Video and podcasts are here:
http://www.hopeandhealing.us/freeresources.html
Me BW Him FWH [Dr.NewMan]Married 31 y/4 children DDay #1 7/20/09 DDay #2 7/28/09 (2 As,both with *PSEUDO*friends)
ReconciledTen years out, surviving & thriving.
Neznayou (original poster member #40654) posted at 3:17 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
Thanks for the clarification, WifeHad5.
I've been listening to One Extraordinary Marriage. The couple have drawn up divorce papers twice and he was addicted to porn.
Also, I just discovered Undone, Redone. This couple actually did divorce and they remarried after 6 years.
Although neither is focused on helping a post-Affair couple, they both have advice for fostering healthy relationships.
Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973
Wedding: April 9, 1994
Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
I do not have it all together.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:49 PM on Friday, March 21st, 2014
Check out the Books forum here for some recos.
dearpeggy.com has a lot of good free resources and no forums.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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