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Until you address sand deal with your alcoholism nothing is going to get better. It will simply get worse.

Your heartbreak is the least of your worries. That is not driving you to drink - the illness of alcoholism is what is driving you to drink. Your heartbreak is just the excuse you're using ATM.

Neither strangers on the internet or the people IRL who love you and want what is best for you can do this for you. You need to do it for yourself.

If there were magic words no-one would be in the grips of this terrible illness.

If there were magic words no-one would be in the grips of this terrible illness.

You are right. I won't bother SI with this problem no more.

Pretty cool to have someone from "down under" help me, though

My father was an addict - that passive aggressive stuff doesn't really work on me.

There are no magic words that will make this better for you if you won't do anything to help yourself.

The illness tells you not to do anything, that you've got it under control, that it isn't a big problem. That this bitch from Oz doesn't know what the fuck she is talking about.

You have to do it. No-one else can do it for you. Stop defending your illness and start fighting for yourself.

You're worth the fight, y'know.

G - you are not bothering SI with this problem.

Go to an AA meeting...I bet you find someone there that can help get you to the meetings if it is a hardship for you. Get to the first one. Get a sponsor.

You tell strangers because it forces you to tell yourself.

You cannot fix this alone.

You are not living the life you are meant to live. You are holding yourself hostage through drinking.

Go to your first meeting and take a step onto a different path.

I had to call a treatment center after my Dday. I got into their outpatient program-- maybe you can, too. Do you know that the emotional abuse of an affair IS domestic abuse? Do you know recovering from domestic abuse is work?

At the treatment center the first thing I learned was that our crutches alcohol, drugs, etc, helped us when we needed them, they served us at the time to get thru life, but now it's a new day. We turn the page and we go forward with a new life.

When someone in the group would say for example, "I'm bad at handling alcohol" the whole group would say, "Until now". If someone said, "I'm bad at handling money" The whole group would say, "until now". If someone said, "I can't move past my husband's affair" the whole group would say, "until now."

When I was in the 2 week outpatient program 6 of us were there because our husband's cheated on us and we are trying to move forward. Others were there for drugs, one was a cop, and one man lost his grandson.

Look up Celebrate Recovery online and see if it's offered near you -- churches hold it, but its for anyone.

Is AA really too far for you? What if they were giving away $1,000 to every person with your name who came to the meeting? Would it still be too far to drive?

You are worth it.

We feel your pain.

It's a new life beginning today.

It won't be easy, but aren't you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

Hugs

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 8:35 AM, March 30th (Sunday)]

Guinness, you're not alone trying to kick alcohols hold on you.

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At the treatment center the first thing I learned was that our crutches alcohol, drugs, etc, helped us when we needed them, they served us at the time to get thru life, but now it's a new day. We turn the page and we go forward with a new life.

When someone in the group would say for example, "I'm bad at handling alcohol" the whole group would say, "Until now". If someone said, "I'm bad at handling money" The whole group would say, "until now". If someone said, "I can't move past my husband's affair" the whole group would say, "until now."

Thank you for this.

Yes - I know I am not the only one here dealing with this grip. Alcohol seemed like a solution. It DID help me get through some pretty tough days last year when the complete BOTTOM of my life fell out from under me. Today IS a NEW day and don't want this anymore. I hate how it feels when withdrawing. I have fallen so far in my life I am at rock bottom. I have 2 choices now: stay on the floor or get up. I want to get up. For that reason, Guinness's hold on me is slipping. I haven't quit drinking it cold turkey. What I have been doing is weaning myself this last week - going from excessive to too much. The goal is to get to social drinking only and even that will be nonexistent. Why? Because my drinking problem has been done at home at night. I REFUSE to drink in public and then drive tipsy. NO ONE is going down on account of me. So if I can get to a point where I am not drinking anymore at night, my problem should be solved since I won't and haven't done it publically.

Alcohol has HAD a grip on me...until NOW.