Yesterday I broke NC with WXS regarding our DS.
For the last 3 weeks he has come home from his dads really upset as he is really missing him. When he has to leave his dads on a Sunday he gets very upset having to leave. My DD is also really unsettled every Sunday night too and it's exhausting.
Yesterday after ex dropped the kids home and DS was really upset I texted him to ask if he had been upset at his as he was crying a lot. Ex texted back to say that yes DS was upset as he doesn't like leaving his daddy and can not understand why ex lives alone.
I then did something stupid and said that our kids were suffering from the fallout of everything and said that I hope he was happy now that he got what he wanted. Stupid I know.
Anyway, ex replied saying that no he wasn't happy and that there was no need to dig the knife. He also said that had we finished amicably our kids would still feel the same.
This really angered me. I replied and said that finishing amicably had nothing to do with it, that we were happy, and it was our relationship to deal with. Not to share with someone else. I also said that him being broken and having an A had caused all of this and that he must be really scared to look inside himself if he can't even try and fix himself for the sake of his children. It just pisses me off as ex always diverts the blame on me and says nasty things to me. You would think it was me who had the A!
He hasn't responded and I'm glad as I would have replied.
Now this morning I am kicking myself for giving him so much power. I know I shouldn't have texted him but it makes me really angry at him when I see my children suffering because of his actions.
I also asked him to only contact me about the kids when they are with him if it is an emergency as I'm sick of him texting questions about why DS only eats frozen peas, DD being unsafe on the road etc, blah, blah, blah. And to keep his compartmentalising to himself.
Sorry for the rant, time to get back on the bus!