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t/j: Pigeon pose: Keep your active foot bent at a 90 degree angle; it will help keep the pressure off your knee.

I use this philosophy to meet the challenges of any difficulty in life. I force myself to confront the difficulty; it helps me gauge where I am in my healing and also acts as an innoculator--if I face the pain, it's not as painful the next time.

Great analogy LA44....stay with something until you can't any longer, then breath and stay a bit longer.

I've only done yoga a few times.....but this trial has confirmed the truth in what your instructor preaches.

I draw strength and courage from the "flexibility" I have attained through this process. This post afforded me the opportunity to breath and appreciate where I have come from and feel peaceful about the road ahead.

Thank you.

Thanks for posting LA. I have never tried yoga, but I have wanted to…been kind of chicken.

You have inspired me to look into it. Any ideas where to start? Is yoga a thing that doesn't matter where you are i.e. beginner, pro etc? I ask because I have made the mistake of joining classes before and being in over my head! LOL!

LA; this post reminded me how much I enjoyed a trial pack of ten hot yoga classes I took. I hadn't been toughed by the horrific pain of infidelity and betrayal, but I really did find that it was so satisfying to concentrate and focus on just what was going on in the room. Quiet progress and discipline. I feel inspired to look at getting back into it now. I think it would be MOST beneficial!!

THANK YOU

Thank you for this post. Your insights are very helpful. I had forgotten how much I loved my yoga lessons. I gave them up after Dday because it made me so sad and I was actually afraid to leave the house alone.

During yoga class (and the A period), I would send positive, healing thoughts out to my H because I knew our M was having serious problems. I, too, would weep.

On several occasions, I returned home anticipating shared quality time with my H and he would be gone 'to the cottage'-actually to meet the AP.

I guess I must work on acceptance and reclaim my valued yoga.

Thanks for sharing, I really need to look into yoga. Truthfully I avoided it because all the crazy hype, but sometimes the hype is deserved.

Wow, you guys! I am really touched by how many people liked this post and actually want to try yoga!

@brokensmile....

You have inspired me to look into it. Any ideas where to start? Is yoga a thing that doesn't matter where you are i.e. beginner, pro etc?

That's great! My classes are held at the gym I go too. I always take the same class (bc it is always challenging enough!) and its called, Flow for Beginners. I think I have taken it 4x now. It's a solid workout that clears my head.

Take a look at a local gym. Even if you are not a member, you should still be able to take a class. Or maybe a local YMCA offers it? If you have a community newspaper there might be something in there. Cafe's also post this sort of thing.

and yes struggling16 - RECLAIM IT! It's YOURS!

t/j: Pigeon pose: Keep your active foot bent at a 90 degree angle; it will help keep the pressure off your knee.

ps: Thanks for the tip Sad in AZ. BTW, I nodded my head to everything you wrote.

So great to see you CinnGurl my first SI "friend"!

((all of you))

Wanted to share that today I had a tough moment at work. Since I moved back to NY I had been anticipating running into an ex-friend and it happened today. My first reaction was shaky hands and a slight gasp. I told myself to calm down and I took some deep breaths. The physical reaction evened out and I got through it pretty well. I truly believe that practicing yoga consistently the past two months helped me get through this moment.

What a timely post. I took a class just this morning and was in tears at the end, it's the first time I've cried at the end of yoga class but I suspect it won't be the last time! Namaste to us all.

LA44, I loved your post.

I don't know how I would have survived the aftermath of D-Day without yoga.

Besides the physical benefits--my flexibility and balance have improved markedly--the psychological benefits have been huge. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to class feeling on the emotional edge, then by the end feel that all will eventually be all right.

My hot yoga story:

I started hot yoga about 5 years ago. My husband was cycling and running and going to the gym at that time (with OW)- So I went to yoga to do my own thing. Of course I didn't know that when I was at yoga twice a week for two hours- he was cheating on me.

When the class would end that first year I always did svasna asking the universe for clarity. I always felt that I was missing something in my life, that was happening that I needed to know about. Weird. But there was something I needed to know. That my H was having an A. And he actually confessed one Saturday morning after I returned from yoga class.

Fast forward 4 years - the worst happens. He has another A. I caught this one within weeks of their PA and two months since EA started. I found text messages where he told her my yoga schedule so that they could meet at those times. Really? Ugh.

When we decided to R I returned to yoga. I love yoga. I won't give it up. It's amazing when you reach beyond what you think your body can do. It's amazing to focus only on your self exclusively for 90 minutes. It's a toxin release, massage, chiropractic adjustment and mindful meditation rolled into one activity. I cry too at yoga- when life happens. So many times I've lost it at yoga. Just cried like a baby. What a great release. What a great metaphor for life- breathe and stay calm and get through it.

So I love yoga. But as you can see even yoga is a trigger for me. This all sucks so much!

Bs: me

WS: him

M: 27 years

2 adult kids

D day 1: 2/12/10

D day 2: 1/13/14

Both OW co- workers.

In R

"He's broken. I take each day one at a time. "

This all sucks so much!

Well, it does suck - the past is done - but what a great mind-set you have in spite of your experiences and how your H used yoga against you. But you held onto it. That is wonderful! I am going to try Hot Yoga this month!

Thanks too, Strad, Sad Flower and AN. I's say yoga is definitely a healer through both physical and mental pain.

I use this philosophy to meet the challenges of any difficulty in life. I force myself to confront the difficulty; it helps me gauge where I am in my healing and also acts as an innoculator--if I face the pain, it's not as painful the next time.

I really like this thread. Just came across it today. Thanks.

The funny thing Fighting Back is that I - the one who started this post - needed to read this again so I am so glad you stumbled on it. So funny how life works isn't it? I was in a much better place when I started this thread last month so this reminded me of where I was and where I need to get too again.

There is a class tomorrow that everyone has been talking about. I think I had better go.

LA

I started yoga the week after I found out. In fact, an hour before I started my first class I had learned that he kissed her.

Your post reminded me that I need to get back into my classes! I cry every single time I go into pigeon!

Great post!

[This message edited by mamak at 7:53 PM, April 23rd (Wednesday)]

I do mat pilates, not yoga, but there are some very similar stretches, especially during warm up and cool down...and the breathing definitely helps!

I started after D-Day#2, and it was an amazing experience for me, mentally and physically. Just the act of taking time to care for myself was wonderful.