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k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 5:44 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
I was listening to Good Morning America and they were discussing this.
I can't remember who said it, but the comment was made that historically humans only lived until their 50's so marriages didn't last much past 30 years or so. But now we can expect to live into our 80's. And with living so long, how can we expect to be monogamous?
Made me want to gag. 
It's a divorce. Don't make it all sparkly and lovely.
k9
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rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
and why do people call it a separation when the full intent is to divorce?
circe ( member #6687) posted at 7:53 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
It sounds like it's an amicable divorce between two adults who tried to fix their marriage, failed to fix it by remaining married, and now want to go their separate ways. If they can do that and be good coparents for their children, I respect that.
I don't judge them for having their own view of marriage as a relationship that lasts as long as it lasts. Some people have open marriages. Some people are committed forever. Some people want one type of marriage and end up with a different type and become scarred by that. If this couple went into the marriage with an agreement about the type of marriage they were engaging in, abided by that agreement, and are now ready to end it, I'm certainly not going to shame them for it.
Yeah she's completely pretentious, but she's probably feeling the grief and loss that most people feel when a marriage ends, whether it is an amicable split or not.
Everything I ever let go of has claw marks on it -- Infinite Jest
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 8:09 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
Conscious Uncoupling is an actual course both parties attend prior to splitting up. It teaches them to behave like adults and do what's best for children and each other.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:23 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
This was Chris's latest (not sure if it's true) 
http://www.tmz.com/2014/03/26/chris-martin-gwyneth-paltrow-separation-rolling-stones-song-video/
[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 3:24 PM, March 27th (Thursday)]
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StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 9:34 PM on Thursday, March 27th, 2014
I have no idea who those people are.
I think the idea of divorce as something that isn't a punitive hell is good - nobody should be stuck in a relationship that they don't want to be in. I think it's kind of sad that people need to try and word it differently in hoping to achieve that. Also, if you're going to do that, come up with something that doesn't sound like you're turning off your vibrator. I mean, you add the word viscous to that phrase and we moved this whole thing into the Jolly Roger zone.
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