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I was so *stuck* in remaining married for so long because I couldn't (wouldn't) accept the brutal truth of what I was dealing with and the damage that was occurring. I got HUNDREDS of 2x4's here. Literally, hundreds.

I think that you are going to need much more support than seeing an IC 1x a week. So you need to supplement that with additional resources so that you can build your strength. I read many books on abuse -- Patricia Evans and <?> Lundy were very helpful for me. Also, using community resources is awesome. Maybe try contacting your local domestic violence shelter to ask whether there are any free group-type meetings that you can attend. I found a community resource whose main purpose was serving men with anger issues, but they also offered resources for women who had been on the receiving end of abusive behavior. These types of meetings are more like sitting down and talking through your problems with a friend than sitting across from an IC who just sits there and asks you questions or waits for you to figure it out yourself.

Best of luck to you, LC. You deserve so much better than what you're settling for.

I hope you told your son that you did not say those things to "daddy". I hope you set your son straight instead of taking the heat and not rocking the boat. I don't know what I'd say but it would sound something like "Daddy wasn't telling the truth about what mommy said. He shouldn't have said those things to you because when adults have things to discuss they need to discuss them in private and not wake up children to tell them things. Sometimes daddy gets upset and he says things that aren't exactly right. Daddy needs to work on that problem so someday he can handle his emotions in a healthy way and not by blaming other people"

Hugs.