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Sleepy312 (original poster member #38360) posted at 12:42 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Yea we moved. To husband's hometown which is small yet outside(far burb) of NYC. People in general aren't very pleasant around here and I hadn't really noticed it until a store employee asked where "where are you from? Not here. You're too nice. "
Of course since the I've noticed just how not nice people are. Maybe if I felt like I was in a nice place with nice people I'd be more open to giving dh husband more time to straighten up.
I am over all this shit.
Me 46
Dh 44
Married 16...he forgot our anniversary a while ago among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.
Together 20 years
Two great kids.
He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 3:30 AM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
(((Sleepy)))
So wait - are you in R? Does your WH not have friends who are decent in this town? Is someone helping you meet some friends?
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
Adeahan ( member #43005) posted at 3:34 AM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
i know what its like having a shitty mother in law believe me, mine told our kids what my wife had done, what kind of person does that? dont get me started i will lose my mind.
do you know anyone where you moved to? do you do any activities or anything where you might be able to meet people? im sure its not helping your R if you are not happy with your enviroment.
Me 33, H 31,D-Day 03/30/14, Together 12 years, married 2, 3 kids, 3 dogs, Working on R
"nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"
Sleepy312 (original poster member #38360) posted at 5:49 PM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
I don't know anyone here. I went out with a few moms if dc's friend the other night. I found out last night my husband had coordinated it which made me lose it and made me feel like a bigger loser.
I don't know ehst r is or what it looks like. I do know I'm lost and consumed with this crsp all day every day.
Me 46
Dh 44
Married 16...he forgot our anniversary a while ago among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.
Together 20 years
Two great kids.
He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother
SadInNC ( member #42170) posted at 6:10 PM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
Hi Sleepy. I'm sorry that you're having a tough time adjusting to your new town. I'm a girl who was born and raised in Queens, NY and lived there until I was 27. I've lived in rural Ohio, New Jersey and now Southern, NC. I'm no stranger to feeling out of place, trust me.
I don't know where you are in NY, but one thing I do understand is the NY attitude. It's not that NY'ers aren't nice, they just don't do the whole "small talk thing with strangers" very well. Here's the catch--unless there is a reason for it. I know it's strange, but that's how it is. So, if you want to talk to strangers in NY, you need to have a point to your discussion. If you just say, "Hi" they will look at you like you have 3 heads. You need to have a reason for talking to them first. Even if it's just, "What time is it?" or asking for directions or their opinion on a product that you want to buy. If you approach them this way, you will meet people and find out that NY'ers really do have hearts of gold. They just get weirded out when a stranger says, "hi" for no reason. I truly hope that you can find some friends of your own.
Now, your MIL is another story. I have cut ties with mime completely because she is also toxic. UGH. I can't imagine having to live 2 blocks away. But if it's a NY block, it could be a LONG block. 
(((Sleepy312)))
BS/Me WH/Him
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
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