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aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 6:03 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
I am 4 months from d-day and this is what I have learned:
1. I am stronger than I ever knew
2. I believe in myself
3. I am a good person who did not deserve this no matter how rough our relationship was before the A
4. My life was not as good as I thought it was but it will be better moving forward. I have removed my blinders and see things more clearly now
5. Taking time for myself is not selfish
6. I dont know how I would have gotten through this if I hadn't found this website. Everyone on here has been so supportive and open with their experiences and offering suggestions for coping and I greatly appreciate all of you
7. I am a survivor!
I know there is a lot of work to still to be done but this is where I am at today!
[This message edited by aero1122 at 12:05 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
struggling3 ( member #34671) posted at 6:08 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Yay you aero1122....to have this knowledge after 4 months is such a great start to R. Are you getting help and support from your WS?
Me - BS 58
H - WS 60/very remorseful and supportive
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic
Steve55 ( member #41621) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Yeah!
That should be our mantra on here. I know I need to do those things.
LeftOutintheCold ( member #42856) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Yay!!! That is awesome!! Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope that I may make it as well.
Me - 43
WH - 41
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Divorce from the ass is in progress!
You can see more of my story on my blog here: http://thatcraftylunchlady.com/?p=833
"Never give up hope and let time heal you"
aero1122 (original poster member #41575) posted at 6:33 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
I am getting support from my WH. We are working on us and moving forward with counseling and transparency.
I read something similar when I first found SI and
I thought how will I ever be there but I am well on my way to healing.
I know I am only 4 months out and still have bad days and triggers but I am getting better and know I will be ok as long as I continue on this path.
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
yme32313 ( member #42091) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
I learned time really does heal all wounds, I thought I'd never get my life back on track. I'm agree with your list as well. It took some time mine longer than yours but it did improve.
krispy47 ( member #42863) posted at 7:48 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
You have no idea how much hope this gives me. Thanks for your post. I hope I will be able to say the same someday.
Me: 47 WH: 48
Married 22 years, 4 kids
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus rising ONS body count
Status: currently riding the coaster from hell
NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 8:00 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
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