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twisted ( member #8873) posted at 2:03 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
Renew ? Is that like a 5 yr lease option?
Let me think about that awhile...
"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?
heforgotme ( member #38391) posted at 2:30 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
My attitude has changed in respect to this.
In the beginning, I didn't want it at all. He didn't keep them the first time, why go through the "charade" again?
At this point in R however, I think that if we stay together, we need to do this. For me the A was a divorce without the paperwork. So, for me this would not be so much a vow renewal as a REmarriage.
I want to do it eventually. But not yet.
D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
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It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry
RyeBread ( member #37437) posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
Ironically the WW and I renewed our vows the year previous to her A coming to light. an A that was ongoing during the time we renewed them.
It's easy to fake symbolic gestures, it's harder to fake authentic living and remorse.
Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
Before any of this happened, I used to joke that I wouldn't want my FWH to think our vows expired. Little did I know that I was making a prediction.
Now I think he'd be afraid that I would be the one to say "what? Do you mean we reached the expiration date?"
It's never been anything that interested me. With what I've gone through, I really don't want a ceremony, symbolic or otherwise.
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
kiki1 ( member #37184) posted at 3:50 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
though he has never offerred it to me, if he did, i would say no. Make that a NO!!
I kept them, I dont see a reason for myself to renew them. There still good as far as I'm concerned.
As for him, would repeating the promise he made 27 years ago and didnt keep, be believeable to me?
Nope. Wouldnt mean a thing.
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