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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 7:01 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
(((The Knights)))
There really isn't much I can add to the excellent advice you've received. Just know that MH and I are supporting you both through this. Hang on tight and turn towards each other, you will get through this rough patch 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Glad he admitted to being wrong and happier still he is not an a-hole. 
I guess I have been here a long time, because I find myself trying to make sure that WS don't take all crap just because they are on this side of the forum.
I can be an a-hole at times and apologized to my FWS recently for not fighting fair.
It's a journey... Thank you for taking my words as intended. (I was not trying to be inflammatory).
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
knightsbff (original poster member #36853) posted at 8:51 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Pentup,
I knew that.
And I have seen some of what you are referring to. I don't subscribe to the idea that a WS should take anything the BS decides to dish out forever because they had an A. I believe it could be beneficial for a WS to accept some behavior from a BS right after d-day that wouldn't normally be acceptable, but that is an individual thing and still doesn't make abusive behavior acceptable it makes it forgivable considering the circumstances.
Thank you for chiming in, I value your input.
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 1:14 PM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
ONE squeeze on your leg should have been "enough". (If done AT ALL, which is something I'm struggling with, because I would not accept that from my fiance--but we have a different dynamic than you and Knight, or anyone else for that matter).
That he did it over and over again, as you were trying to fling his hands off you is over the line. I can't see how this was being playful. If he can't abide noise during a movie, then how can he abide movement like that--isn't that also a distraction from the movie?
I'm sorry it took you back to that scary place. I am happy that you and Knight have been able to talk about it, and are working through it.
((((((((knightsbff))))))))))
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