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If she is 25....I completely agree with the ....HEAL...use BC pills and other types of 2nd BC just to be safe....and take a couple of years to let your body settle.....take your pre-natal vitamins...workout....eat right...and get your body to a good place....and then try again. If it happens again....consider invetro...or adopting! I know those aren't really her #1 choices but there ARE other options for having children! I would have considered those if I couldn't conceive. If you want to be a mommy bad enough....the child itself is what you want most.....the being pregnant part is just a bonus and is fleeting.....

However, I did love being pregnant....and I hope that she gets to experience the feeling of tiny hands and feet moving around in there....I would rub my belly for hours.....and remember still doing it instinctively after I had her for a few months....and would have to catch myself!

I hope she wakes up and takes a break. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results! She needs to try something different. REST. RECOVER. REJUVINATE. RETRY (a couple of years down the road...)

Good luck. Sending you strength. Difference between me and her was I was 32 when I got pregnant..... if she is 25....she has PLENTY of time!

If it happens again....consider invetro...or adopting!

There are many other things she could try first. I'd say she needs to start working with her OBGYN and follow his/her advice. There may be interventions that they could try through their office. Unfortunately, the miscarriages the doctor doesn't know about could delay this (correct me if I'm wrong, but don't some doctors need to see that an individual is in compliance and has tried to get pregnant for a certain period of time which would include potentially multiple miscarriages before they will attempt further or more invasive interventions??)

If that fails, she could consult a Fertility Specialist or Reproductive Endocrinologist which has more interventions she could try.

But she HAS to get into compliance regardless of which doctor she sees.

Aubrie, I'm sorry your sister doesn't seem to get it. Maybe Norabird is right.

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 1:02 PM, April 17th (Thursday)]

Invitro and adoption. Yeah, in a perfect world. But when you have someone on the poverty level, those are options completely out of reach. Its like wanting to shop Macy's on a Goodwill budget. Ain't gonna happen. Those options are very cold comfort.

I think Abby is correct. You can't walk up to the express lane at the fertility clinic and order two rounds of invitro to go. Its a process. My sister can't even stay consistent with the basics. Like, going to the doctor when she is bleeding out. Her doc only has one, ONE miscarriage on file. Doesn't mean she hasn't had others. But he cant formally order anything, because he can't just take her word for it. As frustrating as it is. As much as I hate it. As much as it angers and hurt to hear him say he doesn't clinically see an issue yet. But he has to say it. Because she will.not follow the appropriate steps. Until she does, this song and dance will continue. And there is nothing anyone can do about it.

You have to go thru A before you get to B. Nobody gets to skip to LMNOP just because they think they know it all.

Everyone else can see what she is doing wrong. We have tried over and over and over to get her to get help. Doesn't matter.

My hat is off to JanaGreen. She doesn't mess around. She is doing what I wish my sister would do. She is communicating with her doctors. She is doing what she needs to do. She is listening. She is taking all the proactive measures she can.

[This message edited by Aubrie at 1:29 PM, April 17th (Thursday)]

Thanks Aubrie . . . some say proactive, some say control freak. But seriously, thank you. I hope your sister steps up and starts advocating for herself. I know it's got to make you insane to sit and watch helplessly. My thoughts and prayers are with her, I hope she starts taking care of herself.

Invitro and adoption. Yeah, in a perfect world. But when you have someone on the poverty level, those are options completely out of reach. Its like wanting to shop Macy's on a Goodwill budget. Ain't gonna happen. Those options are very cold comfort.

I was just making suggestions. I, if anyone, understands not being able to shop Macy's on a goodwill budget....I'm right there with her. If I hadn't had Piper....I doubt I would have ever become a mother. Its possible I would meet the right guy before I'm 40....but with about 5 years to go......there's still a big chance I wouldn't too.

I definitely wasn't going for cold comfort. I didn't know her situation financially. But, like someone else said, doctors can work with her and she can try to find fertility options that ARE within her reach.

I hope your sister steps up and starts advocating for herself. I know it's got to make you insane to sit and watch helplessly. My thoughts and prayers are with her, I hope she starts taking care of herself.

^^^I second THIS!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 2:14 PM, April 17th (Thursday)]