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The lawyers are still looking over discovery and at some point we will sit down to do the asset split. In the meantime, WW is scheduled to move out tomorrow and will only be taking a limited number of things. But we will have to do a split of the household contents when we get a settlement.

My uncle who got a divorce recently told me that he and his XW flipped a coin and the winner chose first and they alternated until everything worthwhile was selected. Afterwards, if either party wanted to trade an item, they did, if agreed.

Since neither one of us want to buy the other out, has anyone here used this or another method they can tell me about?

In my separation agreement, pretty much everything in our house is old, dating back through almost the beginning of our marriage.

So what we did was retain things we had pre-marriage; my musical instruments, his stereo. My filing cabinet and career stuff, and books; his books, etc.

Then we determined that I would retain pretty much all the furnishings in the house; and would purchase off Craigs List or other local classifieds/yard sales/thrift stores/pawn shops over the next summer the furnishings to set up his house/apartment furnishings.

Since he acquired most of his tools via pawn shops, he'd also be responsible to outfit me with sufficient/comparable tools that I can take care of my home.

How much stuff do you want?

A few mementos, some of my family's history and a couple of things that meant something to me was all I cared to keep.

If you're calculating the half-and-half for legal purposes, I suppose it's important. But you can give up a lot and get a dollar value in return that way.

Lighten up. You'll feel way better.

I made a list of the major stuff, with who I thought should get it.

Then we sat down and discussed the list.

The little shit didn't matter, so I kept it unless he specifically asked for it.

Right now we are pretty amicable, so we are just going through each room and seeing what each other wants. We really haven't come across too much disagreement yet. If it was hers prior to our marriage (or a family item), she keeps it and same with me. We were together for 16 years, so there are not too many of those items left, just a few family heirlooms. I actually am okay with giving up some more items in the house, because if I can replace them afterwards, it will help with me and my transition. When I see some of our furniture and other items, I remember where we were when we got them and why we got them, etc. Starting with some new things (or new hand-me-downs) I think will help with the transition of no longer being married.