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knightsbff (original poster member #36853) posted at 6:16 PM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
I did pretty good this week. Consistently said true positive things to him. I didn't write the letter. It was so hard because I say those things often, I felt I was repeating myself.
Truth is I have an awesome husband who is smart, thoughtful, kind, witty, fun, honorable, tough, strong, handsome, great in bed, and treats me with kindness and respect despite what I've done. I have no problem telling him I appreciate these things about him because I really do. He likes hearing them but at the same time there is the thought, "yeah, now you think those things but you didn't a few years ago." I'm sure he is kind of waiting for the other shoe to fall. Like when is she going back to thinking the other way about me? Time, I guess......
Anywho....what's on for next week? Who wants to choose? Whose turn is it? Let's keep this thing going. I want to make it all the way through and repeat my acts of service week at the end!
[This message edited by knightsbff at 12:18 PM, April 26th (Saturday)]
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
knightsbff (original poster member #36853) posted at 6:20 PM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
((((Confused)))) I have so much admiration for you for you willingness to try again next week. I'm so sorry you're hurting.
Will you pick the LL for next week?
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:43 PM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
It was a good week for me too. I tried to pick at least one thing each day to affirm him about, different subjects each time. He's been super cuddly all week long I think that he liked my affirmation!
Looking forward to seeing what Confused picks for next week!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
20WrongsVs1 ( member #39000) posted at 2:51 AM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Totally got a shout-out from BH in MC this week, about how good he's feeling about us/me, in part because of the positive affirmations. 
It's something that takes so little effort, but around here pays major dividends.
Which is especially good, considering it's first antiversary week. 
Which passed without much fanfare.
Only three more LLs from which to choose! What'll it be?
fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 2:13 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Found one thing every day to praise him with. I remembered what Knightsbff posted about praising character so will always keep this in mind. Read the chapter again in LL book and it noted to write down things others say (even on TV) if you have a hard time coming up with words. Good point Gary Chapman...this is why the guy has a book!
I thanked H last night for the effort he went to with my bday. He spent so much time over the course of many days working with the boys on a painting for me (none of us are artists but...wow!). He will come home from a jog later so I will be sure to let him know how good he is looking. 
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 5:17 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
This was an easy one for me. We both do well with the words...
Will start with next weeks tomorrow, whenit's been decided.
Thanks
PS
knight, hope you had a good weekend away.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
knightsbff (original poster member #36853) posted at 1:55 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
karmahappens, if we don't hear from confused by midnight your time will you pick our LL for this week? Or if we do hear from her will you pick the following week and let us know what it will be on Friday? 
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 2:45 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
I am off to bed early Tonight. We hear from confused I am good with whatever she chooses.
If she doesn't pick how about quality time?
I will check back the morning.
Night guys. ... thanks :)
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
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