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^^ yeah - that would piss me off too.

You wanted to to, go! Go the fuck away. I don't get how CS or payments agreed to in D orders are optional or at their leisure.

Is there any other way he can stay out of jail besides paying you? What are the chances of him having to pay you an extra $20 p/m for the rest of his life.

This shit is so mindnumbingly frustrating.

Dammit CG, this is the kind of fucked up that makes a person bitter. I just don't get how there isno penalty for not fulfilling his obligations.

And he gets to poison my kid with his craptastic logic.

Ok, so time to dump the expectation of justice. Sigh. This shit sucks.

owner of the practice (owner isn't the right word

Partner? The "owners" of a firm are typically referred to as Partners.

There is justice, it just takes a loooooong time.

Recently found out a guy I briefly dated was mad because CSE garnished his tax refund for CS arrears. He is 63, his kids are 44 and 40. He was paying $5.00 a month toward the debt and it was bugging him that it didn't get erased when the kid turned 18! Talk about red flags waving in your face!

There is hope.... It just needs to be eternal.

(((tesla))) I know. I think it has the potential to make us bitter. BUT. I choose not to be bitter because that is swallowing his poison and I don't want to feel that way. Ya know?

It will likely always be this way. Every time Stretch quits or goes after a "new job" that will be "better" -the delay in getting garnishment set up puts him further and further behind in his obligation. It adds up!! Add to the two years he ducked paying because no one "told him he had to..."

The justice that I do believe exists is that the kids can sense the degree he is invested in them. There is no way to deny that financial obligation and be genuine in the emotional or time invested with the kids. And kids KNOW this. They can sense it, feel it. They know without ever seeing the bank account or knowing the money or the obligation amount or the failure. I hope they never know what the amount of money they aren't worth to their dad... honestly.

So for me, the justice is that I have the investment in the kids and they are the return on that investment. It helps me to think of it in these terms.

Man, I just want it done and I just have to get used to the fact that I have 14 years of this to go.

I called up my lawyer to ask her what advantages we would have in allowing instead of objecting to a continuance because goddammit, I'm pragmatic. She made some excellent points and fine, give the fucker more rope. Whatever. His lawyer is asking that we not even bother rescheduling the court date because he is cautiously optimistic that we'll be able to settle this. That I said no to...I'm not going to the back of the line for scheduling court dates. So sure, get your continuance and try to settle it to keep your guy out of jail but I want a date just in case ex-shat does what he did last time: drop his lawyer when he doesn't like the advice.

My lawyer says that this lawyer is very good and keeps his clients under control. Well, the last one was like that and ex-shat had to 'fire' him. So we'll see.

Cheese and crackers on a crutch!!! I'm so angry for you Tesla! This fucker has had chance after chance after chance. Grrrr.

You got this. You know that. You are my hero.