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Sorry this is my second post today but I had to share this it's SO unbelievable!

I am not trying to be nasty here just remind us all that sometimes WS's aren't all that fussy about their AP's.

I had to post this as I am in shock anyone would act this way!

H has only actually cheated once but his MLC all really started when an ex from over 20 years ago contacted him on fb. He flirted in a really extreme way with her. She didn't take him up on his flirting and didn't make contact again. Neither did he.

So I always thought of her as an ok woman with some morals.

Fast forward 3 years and after H's real affair he tells me everything now. He told me this ex was working in our local supermarket and any contact they have, saying hi in passing or a quick chat, which I allowed cos she did nothing wrong and he wasn't really that interested, just flirting. After the first time he saw her he was shocked to say the least at how she had changed, so I never worried about her again.

Anyway, tonight he came in looking shocked. Told me he had seen ex there with a new baby. he didn't speak but she did as usual. He asked her jokingly where she got the baby and she shrieked 'out of my fanny ha ha ha!'

He just stood there and stared, who the hell says that in a public place?! Then to make it worse someone commented on the baby growing well. H joked she must have him on fertiliser cos he is growing so fast. She laughed and again said 'yeah it is! in a very loud voice while grabbing and jiggling her breasts!

All I can say is wow, the AP (potential AP in our case) really doesn't have to be anyone special do they

I was shocked then thanked H for telling me but I couldn't resist reminding him, you propositioned her, remember...he looked physically sick.

Just think he could have ended up with that prize...

Really hope this doesn't sound too bitchy, I just can't resist sharing it. The look of horror on his face when he told me said it all.

[This message edited by prowoman at 12:53 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]

Meh. I've seen what the average 40+ husband looks like and while his wife may think he's a goodlooking guy, other women probably think differently.

It's no surprise that most of them are cheating with Plain Jane OW - that's really the best they're going to attract.

Unless, of course, they hit rock bottom and go for the Roseann Barr type like you describe in your post.

I have read this back and it sounds awful of me. I was just so shocked. I think Roseann Barr had way more class than this woman! I have never heard of anything like it, not in real life only on comedy sketches!

I am also a bit thrown cos I thought that the way she didn't respond to h's fishing meant she had some class. I guess I was wrong.

It's strange how some ws's just aren't that fussy. If an approach is made suddenly they're interested

I also agree that a lot of these ws's aren't all that special either

It's cheered me up from a bad day off feeling not good enough myself. I felt inferior to this 'wonderful' ex for so long to find out what she is really like is a balm cos its shown me it really doesn't reflect badly on me, it reflects badly on fwh and his poor choices. Not that I am not good enough but that these ap's aren't always viewed with open eyes. The reality in this case was very different from who he thought he was flirting with.

I am sorry if my post is a bit on the bitchy side.

AP are never special. After all, would a good-looking, intelligent, confident man or woman settle for scraps from someone who is married? AP have low self-esteem, desperation and lack morals. And, in many cases, are not very attractive at all. Do our WS's think they are special? Even if they think they do, most snap out of it eventually and realize the truth.

Wow! That woman sounds ~ charming!

NeverAgain2013,

You've managed to post something that's insulting to just about all of our members in three short paragraphs. Please remember that not only are generalizations hurtful, they are against the guidelines of the site.