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LivingLearning (original poster member #42637) posted at 8:01 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014
Last night as we went to bed, I realized Wbf was reading, "Not Just Friends"! He is good about reading things but he generally doesn't take the initiative to do it himself. Usually, I buy the book, bring it home, and tell him I would like him to read it. This time, he picked it up for nightly reading on his own! It might be a small win, but it is a good one.
Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013
Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014
LL, this seems better than good! I would view it as a pretty big win, especially as he took the initiative to read the book.
Maybe it's a sign of real growth for Mr LL 
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 9:23 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014
I agree that this is a BIG win. I'm so glad to hear it! 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
sunvalley ( member #42952) posted at 9:37 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014
I have to agree it's a win...mine is not good about reading...he's had 3 books waiting for him for the past 9m and while he's committed to R he's not a reader and has used them as coasters. One session with a new MC last night and I came home to him reading the books in front of the hockey game...I'll take it! Small win or not, it's the small things that add up and make a difference...enjoy it :)
Dday July 2013
Me: BW mid 30s
Him: WH mid 30s
4PAs came from multiple onlines
Possible SA
LivingLearning (original poster member #42637) posted at 10:18 PM on Tuesday, May 13th, 2014
Thank you for the positive vibes all!
Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:41 AM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
That is great! Have you read it, LivingLearning?
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
PollyA ( member #40567) posted at 2:50 AM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
That's FABULOUS. WS taking the initiative is awesome.
Congrats!
BW - 2 x's ( once before married, got therapy, thought we'd both moved forward)
WH - SA? Probably not. Just a Selfish ASS
DD1 - 4/2001 - 1 OW, left, returned, therapy, thought he'd "gotten it". I was wrong.
DD2 - 8/2013 -
LivingLearning (original poster member #42637) posted at 6:33 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
I read it many months ago. It was a great book and I still refer to it about setting boundaries, etc. That is partially why this was such a surprise... as it was many months after I had purchased it and hadn't made any mention to read it since I bought it. I had originally purchased it for me and got him "How to help your spouse heal from your affair" to read. Which he did at the time.
Living and learning how to move forward
Me: BGf
Him: WBf
Dday: 02/2013
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