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RomanticInnocenc ( member #43041) posted at 6:41 AM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
We read each others posts, there are times when I worry that maybe he might use a post to manipulate me, but I'm pretty sure someone would call him on it. Language is so telling and the way we all pick a part language, bs tends to get noticed. We haven't discussed posting on each others thread but I know for me I have no intentions to currently. For my threads, there is nothing I would write that I wouldn't say to him. So even if he didn't read he'd hear about it eventually anyway. IMHO I think ws's need to be able to face their bs's pain through reading their threads if they allow it, I know it's hard and even harder to read what others say about you. You may not be the person others depict you to be but if you don't understand that your behaviour portrays you as that, then how do you ever internalise the need for change in the behavior. I think shame is probably what stops some WS from facing that. I think most bs's just want their WS to face the pain they have inflicted and have some understanding of it! :-)
Sorry slight t/J there!
Me: BS 34 WH: 32 (theseseatsRtaken)
DS1: 3 DS2: 1 DS3: 2 months
T 13 years, M 5
DD1: 8/1/2014 DD2: 10/1/2014
"Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you!" H. Jackson Brown
familyfirst ( member #42651) posted at 2:30 PM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
because at first I posted knowing she was going to read my threads, so during the first month or so my post were just bullshit...I was trying to make myself look really good
This is what I was trying to say before. It seems in the beginning many WSs are in damage control mode and use their SI posts as a tool. The old timers don't seem to do that as much. I know I would monitor myself more if my BS was on SI.
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