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LostSamurai (original poster member #41347) posted at 10:44 PM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
After MC today, I am going to take a break on the forums. The next thing we are supposed to do is sit down and talk to each others as friends and say what we want out a marriage...
Then we are supposed to go to the next session to decide if we are going to stay and work things out or not.
I gave up... I am checking out. Everyone, stay good and I will check on here once in a while. God Bless you, because God didn't bless me... 
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
Good Luck LS. Maybe God is closing a door. Try looking for a window..
Sending strength..
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 2:21 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Oh I feel your pain. Sending you (((((hugs))))) and strength.
Don't lose hope, you will be fine, one way or another. One step at a time.
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 2:35 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
Wishing you success and happiness in whatever path you choose LS. Don't be a stranger 
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 3:30 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
LS, Sending strength for your endeavors. I'll keep practicing the Batman dance for *that* day brother.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 3:40 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
My thoughts are with you LS. But don't become a stranger. You're thoughts and opinions are respected around here.
Even if you let go of the outcome and move on, there are plenty of forums here for every aspect of your life. I for one respect the break, but come back when you feel up to it friend.
yop
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 5:09 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
As an oldtimer here, hence the name hehe, I certainly understand how overwhelming it is and a break is good for all of us. That said, it sounds like you may choose divorce and I would encourage you to supplement your support system with the folks in Divorce/Separation...where else can you find 24/7 friends going through it.
But more than that, divorce is a significant emotional event in that person's life. You just don't sign the papers and skip merrily off to the daisys. Well maybe for a day or so until the divorce parties die down. But there are a lot of stages to process, not just the divorce but afterwards. A good piece of dating advice is don't date anyone until they've had their papers for a year, so that gives you an idea of the recuperation time. That and then you're still processing the infidelity. You need to do some personal work to make sure you don't fall into the same kind of a relationship a second time.
So take care during your break, take as little or as long as you need, we'll be here if needed.
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
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