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Don't hold your breath, rising. He's being coy and not responding after the initial interest.

I decided to be playful and sent him one last missive this morning.

Hi [Mr. Sexyblondguy],

I'm going to go out on a limb here and (because I'm not really getting the axe-murderer vibe from your info LOL) give you my number. (number)

Now if you don't call within 48 hours you can assume I'll be collapsed in a blubbering heap self-soothing with ice cream, xanax, and all six seasons of Sex and the City....

No pressure.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 9:30 AM, May 30th (Friday)]

Bold play. Well done, FF.

It might not be him but you are interested again which is a new development.

I learned in my short lived foray in the dating world that there is a 3 day rule. You don't call the first day cause you look to eager, the second day is still too soon. You call on day 3 because if you wait till day 4 you piss the girl off.

In the dark ages this rule didn't exist!

If he doesn't call there will be another serendipity out there somewhere

Rising, there is a dance in the old dame yet.

Well on the boat would probably be a change for the better...

Cause if you get off the bus eventually then I think I'll hold the title of "longest bus rider."

Hey, a girl's gotta celebrate her accomplishments.

There is a dance in the old dame yet

Did I ever question this? No, I was waiting for the dance shoes to come out of the closet.

Knew you didn't throw them out with all those moves.

Any response to your bold email?

Haha, no, the silence has been deafening. I'm thinking the reference to nude photos was fishing and he wasn't actually kidding.

Sadly I know all the signs...

Oh well.

NEXT.

Awww. I'm sorry. Sounded promising, but hey, who knows?

Glad to see you are showing interest again though. Your last posts on this subject sound like you are healed enough to finally get out there again. Yay!!!!!!

It was fun to fantasize for a brief nanosecond, but I'm not unaware of the realities of what people do these days.

I watched an interesting documentary on the trend towards singlehood on DocZone that was inspiring but also kind of saddening.

They profiled a few different people. Old ones who are very happy alone after divorce or death of spouse.

And there was one 30-something guy who is just having a ball in OLD-land.

The sad part was that he was never really fully present with whoever he was with. He always had his eye on the next best thing. If that's the trend and it's true, then a whole generation growing up with the technology that lets us do these things is probably missing out on learning how to relate to people beyond skimming the surface.

There is no attention span anymore, it just seems to be a competition to see who can get more ego-kibbles.

They're just skipping stones.

I feel sorry for them if that's the case. If I was a thirty-something in dating world I'd be a hot mess of insecurity.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:03 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]

His loss

I'm just on the other side of 40, and off/on OLD for 2 years. I do date late 30's guys. What I found is that you can spot "those" types early on. Generally on or before the first date because they just don't engage well. If, by the 3rd date they aren't "all in", I cut loose. I've heard a lot of men complain about this problem, but I think it is rampant in every age group and both male and female.

A huge part of OLD is finding someone in a similar "place", both in what type of relationship they are looking for and similar healing place.

You just learn to not hope too much until several dates in…or at least that is how I deal with it.