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Betrayeduk (original poster member #43630) posted at 8:10 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
He is texting now and all I can think is "who"? 😕
Schadenfreude ( member #43075) posted at 8:18 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
Oh I know that feeling. And when late night texts arrive. Even though W is on call 24 hrs/day for work.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 8:21 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
Do you have full transparency? Do you have his passwords? Do you have access to the cell account online?
Transparency is a MUST if you are going to stay together.
If it were me? Even with full access, I'd walk right over, casually, and snap that phone right out of his hands and take a look. If it's innocent...cool. If it's not...you need to know RIGHT NOW. If he doesn't like it? Too bad,so sad. Having a wife who doesn't trust you is one of the consequences of being a cheating husband.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 8:25 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
Oh...I see..it's a work phone and you have no access. Why not? I understand some company issued phones are top secret. But not for you, his wife. You don't want access because you're trying to steal company secrets.
He can..and should..give you access to his work phone.
Oh...but wait! Let me guess! THAT would be against the rules...right? And he wouldn't dream of breaking the rules his company set up...or he might get in trouble or lose his job..right?
NOW he's alllll about following the rules,huh?
Fuck that noise.
You are his wife. He cheated. According to your profile, texting and his phone were a huge part of his affair.
No. FULL access to ALL phones and accounts..
Bitch boots...you need them.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Betrayeduk (original poster member #43630) posted at 9:09 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
The problem is I confronted him months ago and everything was denied. The phone tonight was his own and that is the one I don't access. He says I should trust him. But I've seen too many texts to be able to. For whatever reason I am scared to fight again.
heme ( member #40684) posted at 10:32 PM on Thursday, June 5th, 2014
Id walk over, take the phone and read the texts.. If they are innocent then there shouldn't be an issue. If they aren't then hes caught..
Sorry, cheating spouses don't get trust for a long time.. if ever.
BS: Me (30)
WS: Husband (31)
Married 8 years, together 9
D-Day: Sept 10, 2013
D-Day2: May 31, 2014
Children: 5, ages 7, 5, 3, 1 and due in September
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
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