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FlySomeday (original poster member #35150) posted at 9:50 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
ANyone?? Ok, posting for a dear SI friend here. So, to clarify... Has anyone had the OW or OM show up in court to testify against BS and then after the fact ask that their name be redacted or stricken from the records and documents?? (just cause she wants it and cause I guess there are some things she said/did that society might not think are appropriate). Yes, we are talking about a custody/divorce case...not a murder here. Just asking. ANyone??
-Fly.
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 9:57 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
AP testifying against their own BS or against you?
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
FlySomeday (original poster member #35150) posted at 9:59 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
OW testifying against other BS (not me).
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 10:22 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
I did not know you could have it redacted. Why would she do that? If it is a spousal custody case, even with name stricken, her identity would be known. That really does not make sense.
I do have a friend whose XH showed up ready to testify, with documentation, that she had been unfit. My friend showed up with witnesses to his parenting failures and her PI who tracked the XH carrying on with OW in front of both their children. Guess who got total custody? He got three weeks each summer and one weekend a month.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 10:28 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
The only reason the court will redact a witnesses name (they will never strike it) is if a) the witness is a minor or b) the witness has reason to fear for their safety (e.g. testifying against the mob or a very high profile case). This is rarely granted - a judge won't do it just because someone is embarrassed about screwing someone else's spouse.
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 11:20 PM on Sunday, June 8th, 2014
I doubt it! 
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 12:16 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
I mentioned the OMs name when my X filed the restraining order, and I fought it in court. His BS believes that is why he is being denied a judgeship. I feel really bad about that one. 
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
FlySomeday (original poster member #35150) posted at 1:46 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
OMG KG! Feel really bad too! Sounds like a nice dose of karma. What cha gonna do. 
No OM or OW should have a judgeship IMHO.
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 2:50 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
Sounds like it's time to take a full page ad out with her name and a transcript of her testimony. But I'm bitchy that way. 
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:24 AM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
Oh, the poor, poor OW has destroyed a family, and in doing so her despicable behavior will be part of the public record. Cry me a river, you stupid bee-yotch.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Compartmented ( member #29410) posted at 1:29 PM on Monday, June 9th, 2014
I say Actions...meet Consequences!
I think both sides might have to agree to seal some records...never heard about redacting someone's name. Why didn't she think about that before she said what she said, anyway? If she didn't want the publicity, why didn't she just refuse to testify for her affair partner?? Seems kinda' dumb to me.
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