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notgoneyet (original poster member #33294) posted at 12:37 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2014
The AF has moved 50 miles to be in the same town as us. Very small town. I see her most everyday. WH denies knowing why she is here, having any contact, etc. I don't know what to believe. I keep CLOSE tabs on him and his phone. She posts on facebook that she is in a relationship and other things about not being over until GOD says its over.
MY DIL says not be believe him and to get out. I just don't know what to do. We are in IC and MC where he denies everything and denies when I ask him. But this is the 2nd time for an affair ist time EA, this time PA and I don't know what to believe. So far I have opened my own credit card and opened own bank accounts 40 years of marriage almost.
Anyone else been here and it turned out alright? She is present in our town frequently. It is just creepy.
Help.
Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug
notgoneyet (original poster member #33294) posted at 12:38 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2014
I means AP affair partner.
Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 12:49 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2014
Do they still work together?
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
notgoneyet (original poster member #33294) posted at 12:56 AM on Sunday, July 6th, 2014
Been out of touch for awhile. He fired her when I told him he had to so no they don't work together anymore. It is just so strange. I never blocked her on fb because I couldnt see her, obviously she blocked me from the start. I created fake fb account and can see her and she still says in a relationship and posts things like "he" fulfills her needs. She is "very religious" what a joke. Don't know what to think, what to believe. I keep absolute control over who he talks to, where he goes but think I need to hire a pi to make sure. I'm not sure I want to know. So sad. 
Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug
Girlietoo ( member #38719) posted at 2:30 AM on Sunday, July 6th, 2014
It must be very difficult to be in that kind of limbo. It's sad to say but I hope she is just posting those things to make you think awful things about your husband. I hope you can get the positive conformation that you are looking for.
Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died
Softcentre ( member #39166) posted at 7:18 PM on Sunday, July 6th, 2014
Personally, I'd use all the different investigative techniques, but also loosen the strings and see what he does when he thinks you aren't so vigilant. Trying to control him will just wear you out in every way. Instead let him make his choices for himself, and then at least you'll know if you truly have a shot at R
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 12:10 AM on Monday, July 7th, 2014
I would hire a PI.
She might just be crazy but that would have my stomach in knots and I would need definite proof.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
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