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hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 1:26 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Wow, your WH has a lot of nerve. He is cheating on you and moving out, but he wants you to still "help" him to not forget any bills and not to tell anybody about what he has been up to? He certainly sounds like a selfish ass. I know it is hard for you right now, but I think in the long run you are going to see that he did you a favor by moving out. You sound like a strong and capable woman. You can do this!
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
BlueBlueEyes ( member #43949) posted at 5:41 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
I used to think that women who stayed with WHs were easily controlled and not very strong. I've learned through experience that these are the stongest people! It takes a lot of self-evaluation and strength to get through the betrayal of someone you love and trust. I've been married 30 years, found a secret email and a history of lies throughout the entire marriage. I've had to realize that even though this existed, the love was real. I hate to have to tell you to "wait and see" but you may not expect some of the answers you may find. Both good and bad. You will grow and learn your own strength. There are so many good people on this site who really will help you through this.
BW - 49
WH - 50
Married 30 years
Beautiful Son, Daughter and 2 Grandsons.
OW - multiple, just found out about ALL of them, Husband coming out of years of fog due to multiple childhood and military events.
Hopeful but cautious
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