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tryingsodanghard (original poster member #43590) posted at 2:08 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
I am so proud of her. Yes, she fell apart, yes she was emotionally exhausted after an hour, but suddenly we were talking! Not shouting, not texting, really talking! We should have done this earlier, but if you'll read my story she didn't go NC until much later. Still, it's a hopeful step. We go again Monday, and we've got homework. Very hopeful, I am.
M in 2005
DS born in 2008
Me BH 52
She WW 42
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
"Reconciled" 7-1-2013
Finally called it quits 2-7-2015
7 y.o. son
15 y.o. xSD who hates ME now
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 6:26 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
Don't get too overly excited. I am glad the first session went well. Not all of them will. If they all go well that's not a good sign.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
tryingsodanghard (original poster member #43590) posted at 2:37 AM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Oh, I know. It was just a relief to have an objective person there to mediate. And to actually talk. That was such a gift. We're decidedly not out of the woods yet, she has a long way to go, and we may never get there, but for one hour I felt like we were actually DOING something about it.
M in 2005
DS born in 2008
Me BH 52
She WW 42
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
"Reconciled" 7-1-2013
Finally called it quits 2-7-2015
7 y.o. son
15 y.o. xSD who hates ME now
tryingsodanghard (original poster member #43590) posted at 8:33 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014
2nd session was all about her. I'm fine with that. She has needs and complaints in the marriage as well. Dr. Tried to impress upon her why saying that things I did or didn't do "caused" her to screw around was the wrong way to look at iit.i'm starting to suspect that my WW had the affair, at least initially, to "teach me a lesson" and to make me "wake up." Well I'm sure as hell awake.
M in 2005
DS born in 2008
Me BH 52
She WW 42
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
"Reconciled" 7-1-2013
Finally called it quits 2-7-2015
7 y.o. son
15 y.o. xSD who hates ME now
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