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Reconciliation :
Hey, This Trigger Didn't Bother Me

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 SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 11:13 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

Had to drive to a part of the city I don't normally drive to. It happens to be the part of the city where the favored hotel for their hook ups is located. I didn't even think of that.

The drive down, totally didn't realize I was in that part of the city, drove right by the hotel, didn't even notice it. YAY!

Four years out and I can assure you that the triggers do lessen. A lot. There is hope, newbies to reconciliation. It will get better.

However, on the ride home, I drove by the hotel and I just happened to glance over at that particular time and read the sign and went "oh!". Just was driving and processing, doing self talk. Hey, you didn't even realize where you were, how cool is that. This trigger didn't even bother me, it didn't trigger me. Blah, blah, blah.

Then I realized I had driven two miles past my exit. I still feel it was a "win"!

I have to drive by it two times again tomorrow. I have no qualms whatsoever.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 11:15 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

Whoot whoot!!!! Good for you.

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

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musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 12:20 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

Yahoo! Every little victory is worth celebrating!

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hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 12:50 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

me-BS him-WS

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."

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UndecidedinMA ( member #33732) posted at 1:01 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

NICE!!!

I still trigger when I hit "her" area. Can't wait til the day I realize I am there after the fact

ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 1:04 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

This makes me so happy!

Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

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gabear ( new member #43995) posted at 1:13 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014

gives me hope :)

Still in love just broken

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