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sisoon (original poster moderator #31240) posted at 1:21 AM on Thursday, July 17th, 2014
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/14/affair-proof-marriage_n_5552891.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce
Now I understand why I always responded negatively to any of the stuff I saw on divorce-proofing and affair-proofing my M.
Quick summary: You can't 'proof' your M because you can't control what other people - even our Ws and Hs - do. The best one can do is to be as good a person as possible.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 2:24 AM on Thursday, July 17th, 2014
Haven't read the article...but I can only affair proof myself!
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
FixYou71 ( member #42654) posted at 6:11 AM on Thursday, July 17th, 2014
BS:44
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 22 and DS 18
Married 1993
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