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Want2help ( member #20547) posted at 5:36 AM on Friday, August 1st, 2014
he threw away someone driven and passionate about life who liked to travel and cease life for someone who is happy and content being a stay at home mom
I totally relate to this!!
Although we are in R, during the A FWS actually turned to me and said "We just weren't meant to work out… you want to get an education and travel and see the world… I just want to own a big truck and quads." (Both things OW LOVES, way out of left field for MY husband).
When she got pregnant, she wanted him to marry her and her be a SAHM. When that didn't happen, she went from MM to MM, until another one knocked her up (an 18 year old with a baby on the way). Now she supports HIM, and is content living with her parents while he is chronically un/underemployed.
I am pursuing my dream of finishing my education and traveling. If FWS wasn't supportive of that, we wouldn't be in R, but he sees now that he was totally in what SI calls "the Fog".
FBS/WS- me.
F(serial)WS/BS- him.
Madhatters. More Ddays than birthdays, at this point. His OC, my OC...
UPDATE: Divorcing after almost 20 years.
betrayed707 ( new member #44415) posted at 12:18 AM on Wednesday, November 5th, 2014
You spend so much energy on someone who can care less about you ...When youve stated you have a boyfriend...and you make him feel sad because you are emotionally unavailble...Poor dude...Im sure he is honest,loyal and faithful and you cant appreciate that...
Tina73 ( member #44910) posted at 12:31 AM on Wednesday, November 5th, 2014
The grass is not greener.
You wouldn't of been happy in her shoes because that not what you want! Don't be ashamed of what you want. Focus on your new and improved life without druggy cheater. You won, not them!
Her life sounds like shit. She's stuck with a druggy cheater completely dependent on him with no way out. That's not a life
Me BW- 27
WH-35
DS-7 DD under 1. I love my baby's!
DD#1- Aug 1st 2014- EA
DD#2- Sep 15 2014 - PAs confessed
3 OW in total. Has been unfaithful from day 1
Learning to give up control, and to focus on me!
SpecialK ( member #42372) posted at 2:54 AM on Wednesday, November 5th, 2014
Honest to God, there isn't one thing the side piece has going on in her life that I would want, much less be envious of.
Chivalrous ( member #45316) posted at 3:00 AM on Wednesday, November 5th, 2014
You are young shygirl07! You have your whole life to get those things you mentioned. See the world, work on your career, and in time you will heal...be better. I look back on some of the hardships I've gone through not just this affair and out of the ashes I always came out better...but scarred.
BS (me) - 36
WS - 33
DD - 1 year old beauty
D - Final - 2015
Forgive not for the other person, but for yourself.
"Chivalrous," means to be gracious to one's enemy and I am grateful to that AP for taking that person off my hands.
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