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For me, it's on the dining room table.

She's been telling me they only ever did it in this one other place (which was such a ridiculous thing for me to have ever believed, even for a second, and then to not call bullshit on and just ignore it for almost a year, god I feel like such a fucking idiot!!) and now I have to piece it together myself from what I could dig up that they fucked in our house on our dining room table.

Where I eat. Where I've been eating the whole fucking time. Eating with my wife and kids. Or crafting with my kids.

Or eating romantic post-A dinners with just my wife, that I cooked or she cooked, bathed in candlelight from the candles I brought so that we could gaze lovingly into each other's eyes across that table as we try to rebuild, rebuild trust and love and intimacy and passion. That same dinner table in the dining room of our house where she looked across into my eyes knowing that the ghosts of her and POSOM were fucking right there on our dinner plates while we ate. His balls in my spaghetti.

Why do WS do this?!? Why can't they just fucking tell us?!? After all that has happened, why must they now choose to torture us too?!?

Seriously why? WS? Anyone?

fWW read my marked-up copy of "how to help...". Things improved. That was a month ago. WTF?

Get rid of that table.

I wouldn't be able to even look at it.

Oh I can think of a worse place... The OM had sex in my fiancé...

That table should be in the back yard, dosed in Kerosene, and burning so fast it would make WW's head spin.

what itainteasy said.

get rid of the table. donate it to charity (good will or something like that) or just take it to the land fill.

I know this pain. I was away for some weeks time and OM pretty much lived at our house while I was away. There wasnt a place in there that wasnt *marked* by him. including our bed. our shower. our 2 person jacuzzi tub with the gas fire place next to it. there were other places but WW conveniently *forgets*.

I tossed what furniture I could. and eventually we sold that house and moved away.

When my dog craps in the backyard I bag it and toss it out. that is exactly what you should do with that table.

Our car, but for now I can't afford to change it.

The table sounds easier to change.

How disgusting our WS can really be.

My kids' rooms would be very high on that list...

I would be tempted to take a big ol crap on that table.

Then take the kids out to McDonalds and tell your wife to have that table gone by the time you get home. That way your last memory of that table will probably trump the mind movies.

That blows goats. I'm sorry.

It's truly awful

Pentup - I think I have a girl crush on you.

Pentup takes the cake on this thread.

I never understood the desire to do that on the table where everyone eats. Plus, are they really built to hold 300+ pounds?

Take it to the yard, take a hammer to it and beat the crap out of it. Then, use a chain saw if you have one. Reduce it into small pieces, box it up and take it to the dump or place curbside.

For me, it's on the dining room table.

Same here. The disrespect is part of the whole A thing, but knowing that doesn't make it easier.

That table has/had always been one of my favorite pieces of furniture. It's what it is. We will likely sell it at some point.

We're in R, but that room (and the guest bedroom) still scare the shit out of me. I think we're well on our way to reclaiming the other areas around the house, yay for HB....

Honestly, that type of downright skanky behavior - disrespecting your entire family by desecrating the very place they eat their meals and gather together - is about as low as a woman can sink. I'm embarrassed FOR her.

Anyone with THAT little regard for her family needs to learn a few tough lessons.

I'd send her ass out to work at a part time job at night - doesn't matter if it's breading chicken at KFC or flipping burgers at Burger King or waiting tables at the freakin' Waffle Hut. In fact, the worse the job, the better in my opinion. Let her WORK and EARN the money for a new table since she had exactly ZERO regard for the current one. Maybe when she's flipped enough burgers to buy a new one she'll begin to understand the concept of respect.

I'm so disgusted by her behavior that I don't even know what to say. You need to come down HARD on her for this one. Don't let it go, Growing. Set a precedent NOW.

The only place I know for sure is our car, which we still have. She and my 8 y.o. daughter spent an hour cleaning the inside the day before, which was one of the many tipoffs she was having an A. She had never before or since cleaned it. Probably had sex other places including in our home, but two years out, my WW still hasn't told me everything.

Sell the table on CL and buy yourself something nice with the proceeds.

I would keep the table after engraving a picture in the wood of the OM and your wife locked in each others arms. Something for your WW to see every time you had a meal. A humiliating reminder of her betrayal; the place where she fucked the OM and eats together with her family. Explain that off to the kids when they get older.

Burning the table makes it too easy on her; she can burn the memories at the same time.

Tell her she has one hour to get the table out of the house.

in that hour, sell as many of HER things as you need to sell to go get a new, very nice, table.

Pentup, you rock!!!!!

Tell her she has one hour to get the table out of the house.

in that hour, sell as many of HER things as you need to sell to go get a new, very nice, table.

I like this.

I also like Pentup's idea but really, how many of us could crap on command?

I think it would feel good to drag it outside and beat it to splinters...all of that pent up anger used to destroy the table....geez I'm so sorry they did that. Sickens me.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 3:48 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]