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neverdidithink (original poster member #40568) posted at 8:19 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014
Dday was 8/13/2013. It was a Sunday night. We had just gotten home from a family vacation with all 4 kids. I had a business trip starting the next day. I flew to corporate HQ in a daze. Trying to present my 5 year strategy plan coherently was one of the hardest things I've ever done. My head was spinning, I hadn't slept at all. I had no confidence in myself.
Today, one week before the first anniversary of Dday, I'm staying in the same hotel visiting the same office.
And I didn't think about any of this until this morning. I wasn't in knots leading up to the trip, I didn't choose another hotel thinking about the very difficult conversations WH and I had while I was here.
For those early in the journey: It does get better.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:26 PM on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014
Good for you! 
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 4:58 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
It does get better, with time and healing. Thank you so much for sharing the positive story! 
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 1:23 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 4:38 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
neverdidithink (original poster member #40568) posted at 9:25 PM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
WH was super attentive before I left and it had me a little concerned. In hindsight, I realize that while the "significance" of this trip was not on my mind, he was well aware of it.
I'll call that progress on both sides.
BS, 57
M 13 years
second marriage, second WH
4 kids in their 20s
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:04 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
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