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Divorce/Separation :
Just realized something

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 Numb2014 (original poster member #43919) posted at 12:35 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

I am not sure if I have shared or not, but ow knew about me for the 2 years she was willing to be his secret. I JUST remembered that I emailed her about a year ago and she never responded. Little by little, I am remembering more emails and texts that I found exchanged between the two of them. AANNDD I just remembered, one day I received a notification in my email that ow was following me on pinterest. I reacted by following her back, and within minutes, she unfollowed me and blocked me (I didn't know you could do that?). So for two years, she knew about me. I am sure she saw my FB posts and pictures of me, dd and x, and she patiently waited for him.

What is so funny is I do not think he would have left me for her. The day she FINALLY decided to respond to me was the day that i kicked him out. He continued planning our future for the first 3-4 days after I found out and was giving him the silent treatment. Days before I even found out, we were planning out budget for buying a house, he was at the department store looking for wood to expand our porch, etc. He never had any intentions of leaving me for her (at least not right now). He only moved in with her as a last resort. When he realized I was done, and not giving in like I did every other time, he ran to her with his tail between his legs acting like the victim, making her think "this is it! we can be together finally!". He never came to me and said "Numb, I'm leaving you. I met someone else and I am leaving you to be with her". SHE WAS A LAST RESORT!!!

I'm just rambling, but what I am getting at is, I had been torturing myself on whether or not they will be happy. Whether or not they will last. Now I realize, she knows how sneaky he is capable of being. She knows he is capable of using women. She knows he is capable of leaving a wife of 14 years just like that. Things may be peachy now, but she will ALWAYS have that insecurity of knowing how she got him.

And THAT feels good

[This message edited by Numb2014 at 6:36 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]

BW-me (31)
WXH-him (30)
DD-4, DS-14
High school sweethearts. 14 years gone. He doesn't even care. It meant nothing to him.
False R-3/2011 to 6/2014
Found evidence going back 2 years. He's moving in with OW.

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steppingup ( member #42650) posted at 12:36 AM on Thursday, August 7th, 2014

It is nice to have "AH HA" moments!

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