Ugh, ugh, ugh!
The Arse phoned me (lunchtime) because the children are missing me. According to ds7, ds4 has been crying for me last night (he had a nightmare) and this morning 
And ds7 climbed into the closet this morning to hide because he missed me
I asked ds7 about his day, he asked me about mine and i told him I was going to see his aunt, uncle & cousins today and had he seen them already? (They live a long way away and are in town only for a few days)...He knew nothing about it.
I talked to The Arse at the end and told him about the cousins thing. He told me they hadn't contacted him. I told him I knew they'd tried (they told me a few days ago they'd had no luck so far).
He then told me ds4 had been ill for a few days and said he had a stiff neck. This happened a few months ago aswell and I ended up spending 5 days in hospital with him because he had a serious bacterial infection. The trouble with that, was that when it started, The Arse had the children. ds4 came home carried in his arms, with a high temperature, limp and moaning and The Arse had done NOTHING about it. We ended up being ambulanced in a short time later that morning.
So in the telephone conversation just now, The Arse tells me that he wanted me to know in case I wanted to take ds4 to the doctor. I said that I'm not seeing the children until Weds & Thursday, so he should take ds4 to the doctor if he needs it....The Arse told me he seems better, but he just wanted me to know, in case. Well, great that he told me this time, but i'm worried that he's not going to take ds4 to the doctor and I'm going to get a sick child coming home again.
Oh and then he told me he's dropping the children off at around 7.30am on Weds instead of 9am, so he can get to work. I pulled him up on that & told him that I'd do it this time, but in future he has to AGREE changes from the normal times with at least a weeks notice.
Now add to that that this morning I realised something I should have worked out ages ago...he has more than enough holiday to cover half of the school holidays, so why did he never take that time off when were were married?...what did he do with those extra days? Spent more time crying over this & wondering why I still care?
So....looking forward to seeing my SIL, BIL and their children, feeling worried about my boys, feeling hurt/frustrated by The Arse. But I'm going to keep working on detaching. Contact does NOT help healing.
