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DepressedDaddy (original poster member #41521) posted at 5:13 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
So with our D finalization looming likely this week (judge has our settlement agreement in his hands as we speak), I had an interesting milestone occur. My wedding anniversary was this past weekend. We have been S for almost 5 months, so it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. In fact, I totally forgot about it until one of my family members brought it up the day before. I was super busy with work and family the day of our anniversary, so it kept me busy.
My STBX sent me an email telling me it was hard for her and that she was thinking about me - just a couple of sentences. I didn't respond until the next day. I was conflicted with how to respond and if I even should respond, because to be completely honest I was not thinking much about her. I mean, don't get me wrong, I thought about her, but really was so busy, that it was hard to focus on anything but what I was doing in the moment.
It would have been our 16th anniversary of being together (11th married). Glad to have gotten through it all right.
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
cvs2kkids ( member #41298) posted at 5:25 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
Good job in keeping busy and ignoring the day.
Crickets to STBX would have spoken volumes. But I digress.
Philippians 4:6-7
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 5:54 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
We have our 19th wedding anniversary a couple months ago. I didn't hear anything from Dipshit and was relieved.
I understand the 'keeping busy and ignoring' thing. Good job with crickets on the day.
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
minniegal ( member #43848) posted at 6:10 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
You did well!
I was a mess - our 20th anniversary was last week. I barely managed to get up that morning. No recognition from stbx at all. Not that I was expecting it - he didn't acknowledge mother's day or my birthday so I really didn't think this would be any different.
All I could think of was the trip I had planned for us (cancelled that as soon as I found out about A and used the refund to retain a lawyer)
I'm looking forward to the day having less meaning (if any at all) next year.
Me (BW) 47
Him (WH) 47
Two great boys - 19 and 16
April 1st - the coward told my friend he was "unhappy"
April 12 - I discovered the truth
Separated and on the way to divorce
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 8:44 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
The selfishness of these waywards is just so astonishing to me sometimes.
She just had to send you an email telling you how hard it was for HER?!? 
Crickets would have been best, but I think an "Are you fucking kidding me?" would have been appropriate
DepressedDaddy (original poster member #41521) posted at 3:30 AM on Tuesday, August 12th, 2014
My response to her was literally a sentence and it was so generic, that it was almost as if I was giving crickets, without actually doing it.
Since D I have become DDaddy 2.0 - or better known as DevotedDaddy
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so."
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