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eyenight (original poster member #39488) posted at 1:05 AM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
I had a class on Friday and mow was in the class. What I did took major balls on my part. I sat next to her. She had no idea it was me until we did the introduction of ourselves. I watched her get lower in her chair. During the class she started passing me notes. I first was im sorry for what I did. Which I said your sorry you got caught. Then it was other ramblings. I let her have it. I said bf was given options. He gave you up with out thinking about it.he could of warned you that I was going to tell your bh
But didn't even make an effort. He threw you under the bus without hesitation to fend for yourself. He didn't care. More than once in his messages he told you carrying on like this was wrong. It should stop then you replied with something sexual to keep it going. How desperate do you have to be? It was pathetic. You threw yourself at him like a cheap piece of meat. That's what you are. One step closer to being a hooker. Im done writing about this you are below me and will never be at my level.
I think I made her cry. She didn't come back to class after lunch.
Ive been a real bitch to bf since friday ifeel bad cause hes beem working hard doing what I ask.
It will pass
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:11 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Why on earth did you choose to sit beside her? 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 5:46 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
What Ama said. Step away from the drama - you're better than that. Now she knows that she's in your head.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 9:18 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
She's nothing worth your time. Get mad at him,he's the one who needs your anger. He owed you fidelity. She's nothing.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
fireproof ( member #36126) posted at 11:44 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
I don't blame the OW I wasn't married to her. My ex is responsible because he let her destroy our family.
I think if it helps you then you were able to release what you needed but I think it would bring more pain to you and it gives her satisfaction that you care.
I met the OW and I think of her as smoke- she is nothing to me and I will not lower my standards to respond to her.
Everyone is different - now that it has passed focus on you and your future.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 2:04 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Hasn't stirring the shit gotten you into trouble before? It seems like you can't resist an opportunity to create a stink. Why is that? Didn't you have a situation at work here you were taken to task because you mixed it up with a boyfriend's former flame?
Sooner or later it is likely you will tangle with the wrong person and be the recipient of some ugly consequences. I would think you would want to be classy and above the fray vs. wielding the spoon that stirs the shit.
Just my observation. YMMV.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:12 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
I'm not one who doesn't hold some level of blame on the OW. She knew exactly what she was getting into, and she manipulated everything her way. She is now married to XWH and it is her fourth or fifth marriage.
However, that being said, I would never choose to step into that drama - I'm better than that. And so are you eyenight. It's just not worth it.
((eyenight))
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
eyenight (original poster member #39488) posted at 3:43 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
I know she is not worth my time. I wanted to face my demon so I can heal. I feel better for telling her what I thought of her. I held on to those words for so long I felt like I was getting angry at everything. I feel dignified.
Don't get me wrong bf is as much to blame as her. He is remorseful and doing what can to change the things that brought him to think this was okay. Ive dealt with bf and working on moving past it, but haven't said what I needed to say to mow now I have.
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