Hi EEJJ, don't know what your situation is, but if your're new here... Here's my stash of links. Don't feel you have to read them all, but many of them are very helpful:
You can find most of the abbreviations here in the upper left corner in the Healing Library. Please check that section out.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/library.asp
Read up on the 180 so that you can decide if you want to use it later. It is designed for you to detach and can be found under BS FAQ here:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11
And more 180 info under the target thread here:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=232785
I would also recommend reading these target threads in the Just Found Out forum:
Tactical Primer
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=235051
Great Posts for Newbies to Read
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=361740
Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=385631
Before You Say Reconcile...
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=406548
For the foggy, unremorseful, cake eaters:
20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=446349
These will help with any sort of upcoming confrontation that you may have with your WS:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/confrontation/no_contact.asp
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/confrontation/boundaries.asp
Hoover:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828
Safety thread when leaving:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=474587
How much does my BS hurt? ...
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=327446
Things that every WS needs to know
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=324250
Affair Confessions - Everything to learn in 1 Post
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=474387
Recovery Plan:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961
Enjoy.