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After living with her for 11 weeks, he sent me an email, told me he still loved me and wanted to come back. He says all he did was think about me while he was gone. The OW was not who he thought she was and he missed me so terribly he knew he wanted to try to work things out with me. We are trying.

[This message edited by devasted30 at 9:29 AM, September 6th (Saturday)]

XWH never left for other women- I kicked him out (but stupidly let him come back time and again).

The final time I booted him out, I overheard my kids talking and from the sounds of things, that last OW left him because he was screwing around on her. Surprise, surprise.

A lasted for about 2 months before Dday, then 2 months after Dday (I threw him out and he moved into a camper with her in a co-worker's driveway).

I broke down and talked to him one day at work. We both cried.

He went on vacation with her that weekend. Kept calling me and professing his love for me while she bawled in the background.

When they got home, he ended it and told her he had to "try to win back Want2help". It sent her over the edge, I swear.

I have been the object of her hate and rage ever since.

Since my husband was only interested in "flings", "quickies", when his last cumdumpster (I just love this description!) turned the tables on him and started blackmailing him, he had no idea what to do, so he did nothing except what she said.....

And when she decided it was time for me to know, he cut her off immediately! I honestly think she believed that he would come back to her. Even if I had ended our marriage, he would have NEVER spoken her again. He says he hated her, I think he hated that SHE was in control....

WH's affair was almost two years to the day. He broke up with her a month before I intercepted her desperate letter to get back together. He said she was getting "too involved" and also that he didn't like what he was doing.

He married her shortly after her divorce was granted and they're still going strong.

I hope they stay together forever. To divorce would admit the wreckage of 2 marriages and 6 kids wasn't worth it ... but based on their appearance (they look miserable) and the kids' report of how much their dad yells at them, they're not happy. They deserve each other. 😊

I caught my WW red handed walking into hotal with OM kissing as they were walking in the door. I confronted them in the hotel lobby. MY WW's first repsonse was they were their for lunch. This ended the affair quickly. It lasted 3 months if I believe her. The OM was my friend and my wife's best friend's husband!! Very bizzare. Of course, I am no longer friends with OM and WW is no longer friends with OM's wife.

I did a fair amount of snooping and spying to figure out there was an affair going on. Found BC pills when I had a vesectomy, love greeting cards not meant for me, a trip to NYC with a reservation for 2. I had confronted my WW several times that she was having this A and she denied it every time. I skipped the 180 and took the nuclear option which worked well. It cleared the Affair Fog with a few weeks. The exposure to friends and family also caused the affiar fog to end quickly. I highly recommend a GPS tracker if it is legal in your state. This has helped me after discovery to make sure they were not at it again. A private investigator is always an option but expensive.

Well I am not proud of my spying and snooping, I highly encourage. Exposure of the affair, especially if you can catch them red-handed, will be the affair's demise.

D-Day: 1/27/14

Currently in reconcilation and doing well.

I called the OM's wife. And then the OM promptly chucked her under the bus.

Twice. (Two different guys, years apart).

The other guys, just seemed to fade away from WW (well, one moved back to Europe, found another mistress).

OW was 4 weeks pregnant on D-Day. With everything out in the open and undeniable any longer, he left immediately to go play happy family.

They only made it as a couple until right after OC's first birthday. However, that whole time was spent mostly in domestic hell. Cops were called numerous times. She was violent - kicked and hit him on numerous occassions. She kicked him out repeatedly and he spent nights sleeping in his car. She controlled him, and he took it because she threatened him with not being able to see the baby.

He admitted he was warned by co-workers and that she had even told him some stuff, like about he past domestic violence arrests.

And he still thought she was a better choice than me. It's hard to come to terms with that.

Just as pathetically as it began, honestly.

I confronted (with nothing more than a gut feeling) and he confessed on a Friday night. He was supposed to be working "mandatory overtime" all weekend (for real - I talked to his boss), but he called out. Went into work Monday, told his direct boss everything. They called her into the office where she was told it was over, that I (and boss) knew everything and they were to stay away from each other for the remainder of her work contract. She slipped a note into his tool locker that read, "I'm sorry for causing problems."

A few weeks later we ran into her while we were out. I walked up to her (she looked terrified), I told her I pitied her. I said that I hoped she found what she needed in her life before she lost her humanity going after what she thought she wanted. She was silent. I walked away.

Neither of us have seen or heard from her since.

It ended when the OM decided not to leave his pregnant wife and three kids to travel 3000 mile to be with fWW and help raise my two DD's.

He never had any intension of following fWW.

It took her three months to get out of the fog and her hear out of her rear.

It ended when I walked in on them having sex on the couch at the OM's house.

D-day 1 was years ago, I discovered inappropriate texting between my WW and the OM, a tennis instructor. Tapped her phone for a week and then confronted her after I knew exactly what was going on. Didn't really know the depth of what I was dealing with so did not handle the situation effectively.

Had suspicions over the years, but never confronted. Then one day, driving by the place where my wife plays tennis and I didn't see her car there. Thought she was supposed to be there at that time and immediately started having thoughts about where she might be. Drove down to her the OM's house (I had looked up his address years ago when I discovered the texts), saw my wife's car parked in front. Let myself in the back door, and you already know how the story ends.

As fate would have it, actually my wife's tennis class had ended hours before, so she wasn't supposed to be at the club at that time. Just goes to tell you that you have to trust your gut!

trying to R, it's really tough

My WH A lasted 2 months, 6 weeks EA + 2 week PA

He thought he could have a no strings attached fling while on a work trip. The day after he came home he told her that he married, thinking that would end things. It didn't. The skank said she knew he was married, didn't care and when could she see him again! After a couple of days of WH trying to "let her down easy" things turned nasty. He deactivated all the chat/email accounts he used to contact her (although he was dumb enough to have contacted her using his mobile and work email). This only infuriated her more and she then sent him an email saying that she had sent me something in the mail. WH confessed to me the same day (when I say confessed, I mean a total bullshit minimalizing version of what really went on). He wrote her a NC letter straight after and we have never heard from her since.

So I guess, it ended before I even knew about it.

BTW - I received nothing in the mail, she had bluffed him in to telling me believing that he would leave to be with her.