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The woman you've been dating showed your girls her post?! Wow... at this rate you'll never trust another female ever again. Get a dog, they'll never let you down.

One last note.

RUN away from the OMXW.

DG, OMXW has now overstepped the mark or acted inappropriately on two occasions now in showing inflammatory information to your girls!

let me close with this. I do love my wife and always will. she gave me three beautiful daughters and was a wonderful mom and wife.

I have read the other thread and found OP's post and the treatment she received heartbreaking.

She went there seeking support and was mauled by a pack of animals

I have my own hopes as to how this will develop and know that you will make the best decision possible for yourself, your girls and yes you’re Ex

Please keep us updated

IndependantView can you send me the link to the forum where his XW posted? I am just curious of what she said there. :)

Alphadios:

No, the mods have made it quite clear and I agree, that it would be inappropriate to share this information in this forum

Alphadios...

Your first post is wanting to intrude on someone else's life.

Perhaps it would be best for you to start your own thread and share why you're here in the first place,

Donegone, could it be the OM (pretending) to be OM's ex wife sending the info to your kids?

would make some sense, he is stirring up trouble to break you and his exwife up as well as causing more harm with your ex wife.

Just a thought

Done Gone I totally understand how the email exchange clinched it for you. My xwh cheated most of our marriage. But the day I saw text messages between him and my ex-sister in law (my brother's ex wife and as far as I know never an AP of his, just a friend ) where they are ridiculing me and he's talking all kinds of sh*t about me with her, I was done. That same day I got all the paperwork together and gave my attorney the retainer.

Can you believe it? All of those years of cheating and me forgiving ended that day. I guess that was my breaking point. We all have one.

As if there isn't enough tragedy and heartbreak to go around here but now further involving the children (even if they are young adults) in this mess is terrible.

It was terrible for your WW to involve them and it was terrible for the OMW to expose them to the posts. I don't know if they saw any X-rated stuff but why would someone show them even G-rated correspondence between the OM and their mom?

That was a serious breach in behavior on the OMW's part. I'd be wary of her future actions because of this.

I've heard this for the past couple of days so I finally have to opine.

Do I agree with the OMW involving the kids ? Not completely (in fact I don't like it) although we have no clue at all if DG's kids are attacking his relationship with her. We just don't know. Maybe DG (who isn't here any more under his username can fill us in)

I don't know what's up and neither does anyone on this board BTW !!!!

What I can tell you is that there are some on this board who have gone out of their way to destroy the OM/OW (and I don't blame them IMO) and their families. Some have done it even while reconciling with their spouses who were the primary in culpability for their own BS' demise. It does't make sense to me, though I am not a big R person.

The OMW in this case is a BS as well. While I don't agree with her actions regarding the kids. She's hurting as well.

Maybe she doesn't have the parameters that others here do. Maybe she should come here as well. Maybe this is her only way to lash out at the OW in this case who happens to be DG's ex-wife.

Again, I don't agree with the method. But it was DG's ex-wife and her ex-husband who trashed her marriage as well. Maybe we need to understand that. Maybe it's her way of getting back at the OW.

Just a different viewpoint.

Western, ugh... I so wanted to stay off this thread... to keep it moving on down the line. But alas, my bleeding tongue can no longer take it.

You post took the words out of my mouth. OBS is ultimately a BS! And she found a way to get revenge on the OW. We sometimes celebrate this here. I'm struggling with it because we are being told that she involved the kids. I have no idea what actually happened. I will never support involving kids.... it just causes so much more damage on a whole new level. But... BS gets revenge on OW. We've heard this story before and sometimes cheer!

I agree sopainful.

I didn't want to say it but the sad thing is it's true. We need to think about OMW, even though she's not here.

Just calling a spade a spade and I am glad the first post after I said it was from someone who thought the same thing.

I want all BS to heal, including OMW.

I hope everyone in this case gets the IC they need and they all move on to better places.

Maybe I need to shut up ???

Get *even* with the AP? Meh, ok, I can understand it. I don't condone it, but...

We're talking about a woman who was *dating* DG. She showed NO hesitation to hurt HIS kids to get at his XW. Was she using DG to hurt her as well?

Sociopathic behavior at best. Who wouldn't she use?

Regardless, my advice to DG stands. Run brother.

ETA... Yea, I drove 3 hours to the OM's home in the interest of having a *conversation* (that he wouldn't have walked away from). Today, I'm glad he wasn't home.

[This message edited by 5454real at 7:51 PM, February 26th (Friday)]

I largely agree Real.

I was pretty clear that I didn't agree with the methods, just like you don't. We understand the desire to reach out and hurt the OW.

It's one form of justice but not always the wisest.

Regarding 'running from OBS", I wasn't the biggest fan of his going out with her anyway. Not because of what she did with the kids (and btw and I say this carefully DG's kids were manipulated to turn against him at a time of his greatest need and again I am sure the OBS knows this but should be respectful enough to DG to let him deal with that and not her). I am against them going out because she, along with DG to her, will serve as constant reminders of the affair that destroyed all of their lives. It will be unhealthy for DG, the OBS and even his kids (plus the waywards and their ability to heal which is the least of my concern) to continue the relationship anyway and further, DG's rushing into another relationship isn't always the wisest either IMO.

I guess my point was that at times, I have seen cheerleading when going after the OM/OW here and on other boards. If that's the case, then I fully understand why OBS would do it in this case. Just don't involve the kids and further, I think OW (DG's ex wife) in this case has already suffered enough and OBS clearly won her situation so this is one situation where consequences were served. No more need to pile on.

Mods,

DoneGone has left the thread due to the whole debacle with the other forum, and we have members of that other forum who have now joined SI just to comment on this thread.

Since the BS is no longer participating, what is the point of this thread? Do you agree that it should be locked down?

Thanks.

-W

I agree with this suggestion

DG has intimated that he will rejoin with a new name in order to keep us updated/involved

[This message edited by IndependantView at 3:52 AM, February 28th (Sunday)]

yep. It may be best to lock it at this point

Thanks for the support and I just wanted to check in after I received an email from my ex-wife yesterday that you could call an implosive-explosive sub-molecular message. I have invited her to join this site and perhaps I will be staying on too. I am not sure how this works or if it will work, however, I do have some things to answer to. No doubt.

If you read any of my thread you will remember my out of control anger and extreme rage. I could not deal with it and certainly did not handle it well. I was a basket case and wanting her to pay.

Several times I stopped posting altogether when you guys advised me to do something I was either against or just didn't want to do. You may remember I disappeared for awhile when many of you insisted that I use all means necessary to get her passwords asap. Again, I disappeared when I began catching heat on the way I was handling my daughters.

I did not communicate correctly with you guys but you generally let me slide because you understood my situation. I understand that now.

It is no surprise that my ex is now posting on TAM and because she has continued to get pounded for her behavior as per things I have posted, I should clarify, maybe.

Weeks ago I asked the monitors to leave this thread open just for such a day as now. All that I have said on this thread is absolutely the truth, as I understood it. However, there is another side, her side. honestly did not see it at the time, I was so full of hate and bitterness, I did not give credibility to her arguments.

I have gone through few things since I last posted. I began a relationship with OMW that was great until she got wind of my ex's post on TAM and shared with the kids. I was extremely shocked and ashamed and broke off all contact with her immediately. I am now dating a very good woman but she is not Wishes. (I use her TAM name because everybody seems to know and hopefully she will be joining here shortly). Or not.

I am wondering if she can have an account here with me being here, or, if I can have an account on TAM with here being there. I guess this situation has turned on me. I told her at one point that after I have gone out and found justice, then and only then, would I consider taking her back. Well, I have found justice and then some.

When I mentioned I might be interested in dating her, she again stated that only after we have both seen a therapist and then maybe. I told her it was just a date.

You can have a date ONLY after you both see a therapist and even then.....MAYBE?

Are you serious?

I have felt sorry for your wife's predicament because of her loss. I even PMd her shortly after she started posting on TAM and suggested she start posting here if she wanted healing. However, that last statement is pure, unadulterated manipulation. It's a way to gain control back. Do what you will, but that comment as stated bespeaks highly of continued disrespect and slight resentment to me.

raven3321

You can have a date ONLY after you both see a therapist and even then.....MAYBE?

Well, yes. Her explanation is that before when we went to therapist, I didn't listen nor take it seriously. I didn't, however, I told her from the get go I was there for the passwords and nothing more.

I think mostly, she read this thread for the first time on Friday and Saturday and she was pretty angry with me. I told my side and invited her to come here and tell her side. I have nothing to hide.