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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 1:47 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
Mike26,
Nobody posted anything close to what you are claiming. Giving feedback, even if it isn't what the OP might want to hear, is what the site is about. Please stop judging the responses of others and stick to your own type of support without imposing it on others.
Thank you.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 2:07 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
As far as involving my children in the affair...I wanted to explain that the AP is done with his arrangement at the kids' school and the director says he doesn't reside here in the area. I confirmed this yesterday with the school director.
This is good, but does he still live near you?
Your list is pretty good except for this
- distancing myself from my best friend who acted as a facilitator for me (and telling her what I am doing and why).
Distancing yourself is not enough. You have to choose this friend or your chance at marriage.
She is not a friend of your marriage and any contact with her is a slap to your husband's face.
She covered for you while you betrayed NP5.
Would you want your husband to stay friends with someone that helped him or assisted him in betraying you?
Just a thought.
" floridaredman, it's good to have you here"...DeeplyScared
Sleep Peacefully
Mike26 ( member #45062) posted at 2:50 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
There's a difference between giving feedback and shutting someone down, which is what I saw happen, in my opinion. If I'm not entitled to that on this site, then by all means, remove me. Thanks!
WS, CSA survivor
Dday 9/13/14
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." -Anais Nin
itsnotyou ( member #45163) posted at 3:52 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
edith12
I have been off this page for several weeks as I have been undergoing intense personal counseling and doctor visits.
edith12... I read your story on your home page. You say there that two months ago you broke NC. I don't know how far out you & your BS are from dday but I don't feel you are anywhere close to being out of the wayward fog. There are really good articles in the healing library I suggest you read & re-read.
And I won't live in my mind in a place where my marriage is over.
I can honestly say by reading your post that you are not in reality. I was there where you are. I am not saying you are not doing your work or trying hard to change & fix things. I believe you are but it is a long process. You are so focused on you. There has to be a balance.
I agree with PricklePatch...too many I's.
My advice to you is continue to work on yourself but really look at your behavior and what drives your thinking. You have to be able to step outside of yourself & all the me, me, me and put yourself in your kids & your husbands shoes. That itself can be healing.
It doesn't happen over night. Good luck.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:55 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
Mike...
You are entitled to your opinion, you just happen to be wrong in this case.
Furthermore, Edith is far from being "shut down" so unless you have something constructive to share, please stay off this thread.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:00 PM, May 3rd (Sunday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Mike26 ( member #45062) posted at 6:34 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
With moderators like you two creating such an unwelcoming environment for a difference of opinions, I think I'm just going to stay off this site.
WS, CSA survivor
Dday 9/13/14
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." -Anais Nin
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 6:51 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2015
Mike...
We moderate based on the guidelines of this site.
We wish you well in your healing.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 1:44 PM on Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Edith....This is your last chance before the poly to come clean. Your marriage having a chance may end after 1pm today. Just be honest
[This message edited by floridaredman at 7:47 AM, May 5th (Tuesday)]
" floridaredman, it's good to have you here"...DeeplyScared
Sleep Peacefully
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