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Today me and BW were on a drive while our daughter was passing out. We were having conversations about a few different things( which is a huge improvement ) including family, our future and our child's future experiences. Within the conversations a question about the A was asked. Naturally, I started to fumble and dance around the subject because self preservation and thinking that if my W was going to hear what I was going to say she would be enraged. She has every right to be enraged, but, my point is that she calmly explained that I was dancing around questions and she also explained how she needed them answered. So, it took me a while, but, I answered her questions thoroughly and Adequately. It was realized that if I would only answer these things immediately and with out dancing around them,it made for an ease between us that hasn't been there in a while. When I was not answering things well enough it was prolonging the angry and upset emotion. She likened it to pulling a band-aid off slowly as opposed to just ripping it right off. It was a great moment for the both of us I think... She had expressed her emotion calmly and contained and I had learned that to really satisfy her wanting to know things and shorten the time of healing I needed to stop being weak and just answer the damn question. I guess I wanted to express my gratitude, hopefulness and pride for my wife.

Good job - tell her the rest if there is more. The truth heals and our lies and half truths destroy.

I am glad you had a good day. i remember a similar light bulb moment I had a few months ago. When I started just answering questions honestly with out defensiveness or trying to figure out what my husband wanted to hear is when we really turned a corner and things began to improve between us. Keep up the good work!