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Well interestingly enough after the disappearance of my long post full of excuses of WHY I wasn't able to exercise and how I was too discouraged to start eating properly I have figured out how to get moving and track what I am eating encouraging me to eat properly.

Mind you I have a health condition that is pushing me to eat properly (small portions, no fat no junk, no alcohol) BUT I am doing so willingly and looking at it not as what I can't have but as an opportunity to be able to take advantage of the situation to lose weight and improve my health !

This last go-around he informed me that he was less attracted to me because I have gained weight. It's one of his many problems with my apparently very flawed self. I'm still nursing my toddler and I'm one of the lucky ones who hangs onto fat until the baby weans. Plus my thyroid is a bit out of whack. I go lift weights 3 times a week and do cardio four times a week so it isn't like I'm sedentary. But anyway, yeah I'm in a size 12 pants right now, at 36 after 2 kids. But I was a size 8 when he married me so it's not like I was a bone thin girl back then. Whatever. It's all a bunch of horse shit. He gained a bunch of weight a few years back when I was training for a half marathon and looking good. He had a big belly but I still thought he was cute. God forbid I gain a few pounds gestating his children.

Jana - It should be about health not size!

If you are eating okay and working out you are doing what you need to be healthy and that is what counts. He is the one with the problem :( Especially if HE isn't taking care of himself.

HUGS !

I’m so glad you realized it had nothing to do with you.

I’ve always been thin (and a good wife, and a smart person etc etc) and my WH still chose to cheat because of what was broken inside of him. He told me the other day, it wouldn’t have mattered who he was married to, he was really messed up inside, he was a bottomless pit of need that no wife could have filled, and so he tried getting his perceived needs met elsewhere. All on him.

Oh, and his LTA was with a rather large woman. So, yeah. He took it where he could get it, because he was a selfish asshole.

Think of all the beautiful celebrities who have been cheated on: Jennifer Aniston! Princess Diana! Halle Berry! Add to them a few more famous beauties: Gwen Stefani, Eva Longoria, Sandra Bullock, you get the picture.

Thank you for sharing, wh has always had an issue with my weight but for some unknown reason decided to ignore it? (My own conjecture) and married me anyway (says he's sexually attracted, hmm)

I've at my heaviest not pregnant (though about the same weight) been within 35lbs of when he met me.

Yes, when we got married I was at my heaviest and that didn't last long. I was/am active, have great blood work, cholesterol, etc...

So using my weight as an excuse, F*** you, Mr. G.

It's just an excuse, like their lives (till they get it anyway)

I'm sorry everyone has to deal with that attitude, condescension, ugly looks...for any reason.

Just freakin ridiculous

[This message edited by Green2016 at 10:04 PM, February 14th (Tuesday)]

They cheated because we are strong and they are weak pure and simple. When they married us they were at their best and when they cheated on us they were/are at their worst. It has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. I am by nature a sarcastic ass I've always been and I'm not going to change. I'm also an introvert , honest, and stubborn . Those are my good qualities:). My husband is my polar opposite total charmer AKA bullshitter . We both are physically in shape always have been. The elf troll he cheated on me with doesn't hold a candle to me physically or mentally. He told me the reason he cheated was because she looked at him in a way that I no longer did. She saw him as a huge catch and something to be proud of. I honestly at that time no longer cared. He was a physical trainer and I work in the tech industry . To me we were no longer intellectually compatible. We no longer enjoyed the same hobbies and he was just annoying when he spoke;he picked up her lingo (a SAHM) mother of two who didn't do shit all day but try to look cute in the gym. Anyway he dumbed himself down so intellectually and eventually physically I was no longer attracted nor was I impressed , which scared him. He told me later on my success at work and the responsibilities at home that I took on

He no longer knew how to reach me or how to impress me. I told him he was right and to pick up a damn book from time to time instead of a damn weight . He's since quit the gym and is going back to school thank god. And he did tell me one major turn off from the "elf troll" was that she was dumber than a box of bricks. So again it's not us it's them.

[This message edited by Mimmie at 10:31 PM, February 14th (Tuesday)]

"Elf Troll"

I like that one, I agree that it's them. Definitely helps to know though that it happens "across the board" so to speak. Yes, stupidity annoys me...reading and growing (mind not body) is not a punishment.

[This message edited by Green2016 at 1:01 AM, February 18th (Saturday)]