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i caught my WH last July having an affair with a co-worker. I caught them by placing a VAR in his car. (His behavior was suspicious.)

When I listened to a 45 minute conversation after they were caught, he told her to delete all of the pictures he sent her. Dick pics. She apparently sent him crotch shots as well.

Now, I'm no prude,but my WH is a 42 year old man with 5 kids. Who the hell does this??? He is her BOSS. It astounds me that he had such a complete lack of good judgement all around, but THAT seems like such bottom-of-the-barrel behavior from a grown man. And, let's just say he isn't exactly porn star material, so I'm not even sure what he thinks he is showing off.

Did anyone else have a WS send explicit pics?

Yep. My wife didn't know that I could see all the pictures she took because I had her Google password.

I went to work one night, working over time. She told me she was going straight to bed. I look at her photos and notice she's in lingerie, then she's topless. I never said anything. A few months later I'm at church and she's at home. I check her photos and there's crotch shots and boobs. I was so stunned I broke my tablet.

i think the rubicon is crossed long before ap and ws have sex. its passed at some point leading up to it.

but once its passed pretty much everything goes. sex in a car in a parking lot. unprotected sex. nude photos. sex in our homes. videos of them having sex. its all likely and weve seen it happen over and over.

would be more of a shock if a cheater didnt do these things.

they do them for the ego kibbles they receive back and because they get a rush/high from sneaking/doing the forbidden.

alot of us bs take it personal. its not really. chances are you never crossed his mind while he was taking/sending these pjotos but you didnt - except as an obstacle he had to get around.

his problem is inside him. he was willing to lose his wife, kids, and job to get laid by ap... why? not love. but something broken inside him.

Dick pics and female crotch shots....mmmm not a prude either but really not my thing...

I get tasteful sexy shots, nice bodies, sexy lingerie, nicely muscled male bodies yes...but lets face it these body parts are not exactly pretty at their very best

Oh yes so did mine. He thought he had deleted them and he had not told me that they had sent each other pics. One night I had this horrible gut feeling that there was something there well there was and I could hardly breathe pics of her private parts her lying naked feeling herself up and then pics of him. Well I made him get up and look at all of them in front of me so he could see what I saw and then made him delete them. It is what still haunts me at times even though we are nearly three years out and we are working on it. Not sure what goes through their minds they are in that fog I think and I am convinced she started it off as I don't think it would of been something he would of done but then we always think we know them right. Keep strong if you think of them acknowledge those thoughts and then try to move on and keep busy that is what helped me.

When I listened to a 45 minute conversation after they were caught, he told her to delete all of the pictures he sent her. Dick pics. She apparently sent him crotch shots as well.

Yeah, the old 'damage control mode' typical cheaters default to after it all hits the fan.

It astounds me that he had such a complete lack of good judgement all around, but THAT seems like such bottom-of-the-barrel behavior from a grown man.

When it comes to these fools, nothing surprises me at all. Nothing.

Since he was stupid enough to shit where he eats (a/k/a have an affair at work with one of his direct reports), he's opened himself up for a possible sexual harassment lawsuit - especially since he provided her with pictures and texts that she can use for evidence. He'd better pray she never gets a bee in her bonnet and decides to do that.

That's how I discovered my wife's affair, 26 pictures in various sex acts from sucking to fucking to the creampie close-up. Pictures of his dick taken by my loving wife, and three Skype videos, I got his end, I's sure she sent him a few from her end. Followed by 15 pages of emails along the line of I'm available, you available, sure lets get together and fuck. Ugh.

Yep. Grown adults acting worse than middle schoolers. Dick pics are so sexy ya know? I'm angry, but I'm almost embarrassed that this is what turned them on so much. Wtf?

And let's just say he didn't have to use the panoramic setting on his phone to fit all that goodness in there, but maybe she did... so I reiterate..WTF?

We're married to a bunch of Anthony Wieners. Oh the joy.

Yep, starting in January 2016... my wife started purchasing sexy outfits/lingerie and taking pictures and sending them to her AP.

This led to one of the dumbest comments from her, in which she claimed that she bought the outfits for both of us. Yeah, something that every husband wants to hear.

This led to one of the dumbest comments from her, in which she claimed that she bought the outfits for both of us. Yeah, something that every husband wants to hear.

OUCH!

My STBXWH took photos of the two prostitutes he hired on my Birthday whilst "away on an important business golf weekend" - yeah right!

Thanks for forever spoiling my birthday you bastard.

MOB

Yeah, finding dick pics of my WH was really shocking. After I caught him exchanging pics with a whore, I went to his office and went through his work computer. I found more pics and different women' s crotch shots. Some of the women I knew. One was a very good friend. Any who, what hurt the most was a video I found where he walked into the bathroom (his head is out of the shot) and he pulled don't his shorts, showed his bueno, pulled up his shorts and walked out. It was very dirty old man with a trench coats-esque. When I looked at the date on the video, it was the date that my dear sweet father had a stroke. I remember calling him a few times from the hospital to give him updates and he acted cold and weird, like I was bothering him. Now I know it was because I was interrupting his filmmaking. He begged me for forgiveness bla, blah, blah. Tears. Promises. Fast forward to discovering this recent PA and I used Dr Phone in an old phone of his. I discover dick pics and new women. Sooo, he never stopped. My shrink says he is a exhibitionist. Signs of narcissism. Lucky me!!!!

Yes, as Sadmom said, its just embarrassing on so many levels. I get sending pictures, BUT there is just such an element of sleeziness here. It all just goes along with their poor judgement, a feeling like there could never be negative consequences, and being just plain sloppy and stupid.

When I think about different aspects of what my WH has done its truly mind-boggling to me -- going to her house in the middle of the day, taking explicit pics and sending them to a subordinate -- it just makes me look at him and say WHO THE HELL ARE YOU?? My 15 year old has more self-control than that.

Exactly, SuthernMama5. Who the hell are you? It is shocking to know I'm married to a man that has such deep secrets.

A few months after Dday my husband gave me his extra laptop because mine bits the dust. When I was trying to add some pics a folder popped up with their porn photos. I called him over as I was scrolling through them and asked him if he wanted me to delete them or if he wanted to keep them. I don't think I had ever seen him so embarrassed in his life. His face was red, he looked like he was going to throw up, and croaked out to delete them. I think us looking at them and his reaction took the sting out of seeing them. I still laugh about it when I think about it.

My WW and the OM made a homemade porn video with various acts. The OM sent some video captures of to WW. Also during the A, WW was using Yahoo chat to talk to 3 other guys (that I know of). She sent some of those pictures via email to those 3.

I didn't need mind movies since it was the video I discovered that was my d-day. One scene is WW holding camera with her privates in the shot. OM pulls out and 'finishes' on her privates. They both start giggling and WW says "oh yeah, I'm in love"

WS's two affairs were strictly sharing explicit pictures--not that it makes it any better. That's how I found out. I went to check FB, and he'd received a message from OW2. Those images are burned in my mind, especially since OW2 wasn't even attractive.

Yep-grossest stuff ever. WH seemed to be so dang proud of himself in the dic pics. (Yeah- I've seen it- its not all that). And I absolutely do not get the appeal of crotch shots. Really not the most attractive part of a woman. And these were not attractive women to begin with.

My idiot husband gave my daughter, who was 10, his old phone, when he upgraded. It had dick pics and also pics of the OW on it. So lovely. I have no idea if my daughter saw them. God help us!