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digitaldrifter (original poster member #50161) posted at 5:30 PM on Sunday, May 28th, 2017
Now, this post isn't going where you think it's going to go! So, I met a lovely lady from a different country online. A few weeks ago for my 36th birthday I made a trip to go see her. We took things slowly (still on the bus, tagged out before I got to 3rd base), which is fine by me. However, I'm not sure if it's because it's been almost 2.5 years since I've been laid or what, but it seems that ANY sort of physical touch from her caused me to get an erection. Seriously, it felt like I was 15 again. We were walking through the mall holding hands, and I had to hold my shopping bag in front of my junk to hide it. I hope I'm not the only one with this issue!
Phantasmagoria ( member #49567) posted at 6:55 PM on Sunday, May 28th, 2017
It's been over 2 years for me too. I can relate, and I'm in my early 50's...so get used to being able to carry your shopping bag hands free for a while yet! 
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 10:37 PM on Sunday, May 28th, 2017
Well, it's a better problem than the opposite, I think. And good for you to be alive and attracted to someone, and having fun. Thank goodness for shopping bags and briefcases.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
nothandlingit ( new member #57198) posted at 12:13 AM on Monday, May 29th, 2017
I had this issue with someone who *really* should not have been a NB and who *really* wanted to be. She noticed, I'm not sure if it encouraged her to ignore my words and listen to my boners.
Anyway when I was still innocent and trying to do the right thing, I was very ashamed about that. Constantly getting up. By the end she only needed to approach me with a happy voice.
(me) BS 32, WW 31, M 7 years together 12
PA Oct 2016, seems 2 weeks long
DDay stopped the A
Filed D immediately
WW took her life Feb 2017, before D finalized
Currently in extremely controversial relationship, started Apr 2017
digitaldrifter (original poster member #50161) posted at 2:48 AM on Monday, May 29th, 2017
Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one! I guess I should feel fortunate that even though I'm closer to 40 than 30, I'm still getting boners like Beavis and Butt-Head.
ADryHeat ( member #46484) posted at 4:44 AM on Monday, May 29th, 2017
Clearly I'm not a man, but I'll confess that when it's been awhile for me and especially if I'm ovulating or near it, I can get incredibly aroused by the smallest things. I think it's sort of normal when your hormones are all on fire and you haven't had that release in a while.
Also: from a female pov...if I'm into a guy and he can't seem to keep from being turned on in my presence, it's a huge ego boost.
Me: BSMarried 11 years, 2 young kidsDDay 11/3/14, Discovered he was still a fuckwit: 7/10/15 DIVORCED 11/12/2015"Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried, but actually you've been planted."
Notfromhere ( member #56006) posted at 11:52 AM on Monday, May 29th, 2017
I'll second the female perspective - i just turned 40 and am a bit shocked at how my drive has sky rocketed in the couple of months I've been sexually active again. I can't get enough, he can't get enough and it's all around just amazing.
I think I had that side of things on lock down for so long that now the door isn't just unlocked, it's blown wide open. 
I would worry about this apart from the obvious need to carry a newspaper around with you. I think most women at this stage in life would find it a huge compliment and turn on.
Me: 40. Brit living in the US. SAHM to a feisty 5 year old.
Him: 46. Mid life crisis? Suspected infidelity but I now think he probably didn't cheat.
I suspected infidelity, but he swears not and now I don't know. It really doesn't mat
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