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TimelessLoss ( member #55295) posted at 3:04 AM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
Salv,
Are you still out of the house? How is it that you still have contact with her? Do you seek her out?
You say you are trying to move on. You should have no contact with her unless you have joint assets to divide. Then the contact can be limited to email.
You've done well exposing the A to the OM's wife.
Now go NC with your cheating Ex.
"You've got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served"
Salv (original poster new member #60311) posted at 3:12 AM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
I have been out of the house for a month now. I did have contact for a couple weeks when she was supposed to be getting help but it's been a couple weeks since that was exposed to be a lie. I had cut contact at that point. Aside from a couple emails discussing the money she owes me for the car and down payment for the house I have not talked to her.
JustTheFacts ( new member #60475) posted at 3:27 AM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
If things don't work out with those two (and there's a good chance that they won't), don't let her come crawling back to you. If she tries, RUN. If you marry this woman it will be the biggest mistake of your life. Thankfully your aren't married and don't have any children. Sorry for the pain you must be feeling.
TimelessLoss ( member #55295) posted at 3:31 AM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
The saying around here is that NC = No New Hurts.
Stay strong with that.
Do you own the house? She should move out, not you.
"You've got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served"
Salv (original poster new member #60311) posted at 6:20 PM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
There's no way I'm getting back together with her. She used up her one and only shot at reconciliation.
The house is in her name but I did put my own money into it. I'm glad it's hers though, I think it would be torture for me to live there. Plus I don't have to worry about falling behind on the mortgage and bills. I was always the emergency bail out when things got tight.
1survivor ( member #49999) posted at 6:26 PM on Tuesday, September 5th, 2017
But you are entitled to 1/2 of the equity since you were married. Your lawyer should tell you that . Good move on moving on. Someone once said everyone deserves a second chance, nobody deserves a third.
JustTheFacts ( new member #60475) posted at 1:53 AM on Wednesday, September 6th, 2017
1Survivor They aren't married just engaged.
Salv (original poster new member #60311) posted at 1:55 AM on Wednesday, September 6th, 2017
Right, we we're engaged. Sorry for the confusion. I was posting on break at work today and forgot to reply once I was home.
mouthkeptshut ( member #54085) posted at 2:14 AM on Wednesday, September 6th, 2017
OM sounds like a winner. I guess it was also your fault he cheated on his wife?
BH
Dday: 7/3/2016, 5 month EA/PA
Salv (original poster new member #60311) posted at 2:22 AM on Wednesday, September 6th, 2017
I was just that insidious apparently. 
For him to try to justify it like that to his daughter is beyond bizarre. I just hope his wife and kid stay safe, the guy seems pretty unstable.
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