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JulieMarie (original poster member #60683) posted at 4:56 AM on Friday, October 27th, 2017
He is literally the best thing that has ever happened to me. After a lifetime of abandonment and lies...i won't live with anything less ❤
Me: 37 WW
Him: 44 BH
DDay 1: 05/09/2012
DDay 2: 09/09/2017
DS: 24,18,13,12
DD: 22
DG: 3
"She wears her strength and darkness equally well, the girl has always been half goddess, half hell"
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:56 AM on Friday, October 27th, 2017
As WSs, we often sabotage the best things in our life.
What are you doing to figure out what you can do to be a safe partner? That's really all you can control.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
Root ( member #58596) posted at 12:56 PM on Friday, October 27th, 2017
The only thing you control is you. Work your ass off to get better. IC, books, post here often, get off all social media, learn to learn to live authenticly, get a new phone number, eliminate all the ways the OM can reach you since you are so very weak where he is concerned. Yes I read your profile.
Get busy living or get busy dying.
Allmyfault1 ( member #59106) posted at 1:39 PM on Friday, October 27th, 2017
Sadly, you don't have a choice anymore. You made the choice to cheat on your H. Now the choice to stay and give you a 3rd chance, or go is his. As Root said, the only thing you can control is you. I have been told 10000 times here - Let go of the result and simply work on yourself. It's very hard to do - harder than you can imagine.
I wish you and your H the best. I hope that you can work things out in a way that will be good for both of you. IF he decides to give you another chance, I truly hope you realize what you have.
in the mean time, totally openness with phone, email, texts...everything. A new number, no social media of any kind. Cancel old email address and make new ones that both of you have access to. Create another "REAL" timeline. Answer every question with honestly and don't get defensive.
Good luck
No one ever gets tired of loving. They just get tired of waiting, assuming, hearing lies, saying sorry, and hurting.
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