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persevere (original poster member #31468) posted at 3:52 AM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
I recently received a FB message from a user I didn't know. It said "Hey I have something to show you - do you know this name - "XWH's name here" - watch this naked video he is jerking off to the cam." Her profile name was "Ashley Madison" 
and she indicated she was from a nearby town.
It really freaked me out. Not because he might actually be doing that - God knows that's possible - but because I blocked him and his AP (who is now his W) years ago. How in the world could anyone have connected him to me?
I declined the message and I blocked her and reported her profile. But I'm still freaked out that she somehow located me. Anyone have any insight as to how this might have happened?
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
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Wiserallthetime ( member #44331) posted at 4:33 AM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
I would suspect AP of setting up the bogus account, just to torment you - or maybe one of AP's friends. Or, could it be your xwh? Or a friend of his that might mess with you? One last option I can think of is a friend or family member of yours that is the type to think such a horrible thing would be funny.....
Someone else may have a better idea on it, though. I am still trying to figure out how a person I don't know and don't share any friends with was able to find and message me on FB, when I have my account locked down as tight as possible for privacy. (I also have xwh and mow blocked, as well as members from both of their families.)
Edit to add: I think you handled it properly, with declining the message and reporting the page. FB tends to look into those things fairly well, from what I understand.
[This message edited by Wiserallthetime at 10:35 PM, November 15th (Wednesday)]
Ghofsip ( new member #58378) posted at 4:42 AM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
i'd just block her and report her.
it's easy to find people on facebook. like 2-3 minutes of looking. they just search your name, even if you're not searchable, there are easy ways around FB's rules. like google a person's name + facebook + their home town, and you'll likely get their profile if they have one.
you're safe. just someone that has too much spare time reaching out. it's pretty pathetic.
hardtimesinlife ( member #10468) posted at 11:57 AM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
Maybe it's a new OW trying to out him to his wife? I think you can pay a dollar to get a message into the recipients inbox (as opposed to their spam folder)
Ddays 2004 & 2007
I cut my losses mid 2013
Feeling happier every day :)
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 12:58 PM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
it's easy to find people on facebook
I agree. Setting up a bogus account is easy and you would not have that bogus account blocked.
Heck when I was doing OLD, I typically was able to find the guy even before he gave me a real name.
As to the why? Who knows - just take it as a "who cares" moment and be glad you are on a new path.
[This message edited by EvenKeel at 6:59 AM, November 16th (Thursday)]
harrybrown ( member #59225) posted at 9:01 PM on Thursday, November 16th, 2017
so sorry that someone is messing with you in a major way.
Glad that you blocked it.
hope your current H can help with your feelings.
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