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A burner phone can be purchased at the Dollar store for less than $10. Or the OW could have bought it for him.

Get a VAR..a voice activated recorder..and secure it under the front seat of his car, with heavy duty Velcro. That will let you know if there's another phone.

Is this OW married or have a SO?

He definitely deleted the correspondence between them, probably where he strung her along saying he's leaving you for her, and then how they plan to screw you over in the divorce.

Use Dr fone to retrieve deleted texts, use a voice activated recorder hidden in his car. Install some spyware on his phone. Do not tell him when you do this.

You can have the real truth but it's not easy or fun.

And then, when you know the real truth, you can make a real decision.

Or you can just divorce him now- the choice is yours, you are the one with the power here.

He is the liar, the cheater, and it's on him to show you he can be trusted. All he's shown you is his willingness to lie and lie. And he is sad because he liked having his side piece and his wife at the same time. What an ass.

we only tell you about our experiences and hope it helps you see the true situation better.

I felt your pain then your panic. I was the same I love my FWH so much so my dear friend do it your way, listen to your heart.

I pray it will go well for you . I feel that is what you want so badly.

Dreams DO come true. Not everything ends badly GOOD LUCK

Hi and welcome. I'm sorry you are here, but glad you found us.

You seem to be very intelligent and on top of things especially after such a traumatic emotional event.

Sometimes the shock and awe approach is a really good thing for the WS to wake them up to the fact you are not a fucking doormat.

He said he would run the numbers and see about moving out.

That's an odd way to put that, especially since you are the one that takes care of the accounts, and he is putting you in a subordinate position....not good.

You may want to consider going to see a divorce attorney, not to divorce, but to educate yourself on the laws of your state and what a settlement could look like.

This is YOU running the numbers, and the shock and awe part for him when he literally sees the numbers of what it will cost him to divorce and what he is about to lose.

Also look into post-nuptial agreements to educate yourself. You do not need to be in any rush to trust him...he destroyed that and now he is not acting remorseful. He's jerking you around.

I agree on the VAR under the seat of his car. Knowledge is your friend.

Do not tell him about this site or tip your hand in anyway.

To save your marriage you need to be willing to lose it.