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My then SO gave me the most infuriating gift ever. This is a guy who owned an old house boat and every two years I helped him paint the hull with epoxy paint. It took days.

One year I painted the exterior of my house. I painted personally everything I could reach on a step ladder. He never helped me. Not so much as a brush stroke.

So that year for Christmas....wait for it....he took a picture of my newly painted house and framed it. I wanted to bash it over his head.

XWW used to give me CDs that promptly ended up in her car. I playfully called her on this once. She responded by saying, "Oh yeah? Name five times I've done this!"

Even though five examples seemed an unreasonably high bar, I rattled off seven or so before she stopped me.

One year xwh gave me a handgun. I looked at him and said "just what I always wanted".

This was long before Dday.

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My father loved giving my mom gifts for Christmas and always came up with wonderfully thoughtful presents for her. Not always expensive, but very thoughtful and given with love.

My FWH, not so much. I was lucky enough to have a great MIL though and she told me her son was not a thoughtful shopper, usually rushing out on Christmas Eve to buy whatever was left at the mall. She advised me to find something I would like and let him know what size and where he could buy it. So, that is what I’ve done for 36 years. Sure, it’s not so romantic like my mom and Dad, but I’ve never received an ironing board or a set of wrenches, lol. Yikes.

But this!

My X-WH gave me clothes that were 3 sizes too small. When I opened them in front of his family, he said it was "incentive to lose that weight

He'd have lost some anatomy at that point.

Saddest thing is, he had me so beat down at that point that I went home and started losing weight. (He was in Army and stationed several states away. We met one weekend a month and it was on one of those weekends that he gave me the lovely clothes)

There's a REALLY funny story about how I finally found my bitch boots but can't tell it in this forum.

TWICE in a row my H gave me furniture pieces that we had discussed and I DID NOT WANT. After the first time I said "At least don't pretend it's a gift for me!" But he did. Mother's Day and Christmas of the same year.

The next year, for Father's Day, I gave him solitude...while I spent the weekend at the beach with my sister. (Not FD weekend, I wouldn't do that to my kids, but the next weekend.)

He got the point.

But I will say I still have to spell out what I want. Gift giving is not his strong point.

I got a cookie sheet once. I don't bake much. My ex used to buy me gifts that were things we generally needed around the house anyway, and our cookie sheets were kind of rusty.

I'm going to go check out the spray on tights now because I can't seem to picture them.

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'm going to go check out the spray on tights now because I can't seem to picture them.

I know! And I got them.

This year STBXWH gave me a hair dryer.

Not the worst gift ever, and will definitely be coming with me when we can eventually sell our house and go our separate ways.

MOB

I thought I was a good gift giver. I gave plane tickets to a baseball game in ARizona this year to WS and sons. But I also gave our 26 year old DS some kitchen appliances like a crockpot, immersion blender, and a griddle. I found them in the closet downstairs yesterday after he left. He didn't want them.i'm thinking of saving them for when he marries and sets up a real household and needs them.

several years ago I received a bear skin rug from my husband. ok. every time a guy friend came over there would be nudges and grins back and forth. i had no idea what that meant. then i did. so i received a sexual toy for xmas from him i guess. this is ok because it does look good on the floor in the basement.