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So I went on a romantic getaway with the wife this past week and I finally asked her if she ever thought of OM while we are intimate. For some reason the frequency of my mind movies have been increasing when we are having sex and then I lose focus and interest and everything that goes with it. I don’t know why as she has given me zero reasons to think anything is wrong but something in the back of my mind was telling me this.

After we had a bottle of wine one night I finally worked up the courage to ask her so I did. Waterworks ensued and it was a doozy. She was devastated to know that after all these years it still effects me. She must have hugged me for what seemed like an eternity and could not stop crying and apologizing. She very convincingly said I’m the only one she ever thinks of while we are together. If she was lying then she’s a great actress but I feel she was 100% sincere.

While I’m over the moon that my wife is very in love with me it really saddens me that this shit show from decades ago still is a part of our lives. I’m going to make every efffort never to let it ruin another second of my my life, or my wife’s for that matter.

Jman,

Facts:

Nothing better than sex.

Bad sex is better than no sex.

Affair sex with the OM and BH can be the same,

worse, better. What affair sex gives is the rush

from being naughty. Doing the forbidden. Acting

as a bad ass. This is the only thing that the BS

cannot compete against. And, the BS should never

try for this high is just based on fantasy, not

on reality.

I never believed that sex in any WW's affair

was that bad. Though another fact the reason a

WW kept going back for more sex is that the

WW has sex to keep getting the attention

that she wants from the OM. The OM keeps

giving the WW attention so he keeps getting

to have sex with her.

I have read many posts where the OM got more

sex, and got the WW do many things for the OM

that her BH wanted but he never got.

D day happened, recovery is on, the WW refuses

to give her BH what she gave her OM. People

debate on forums whether the WW should give her

BH what she gave her OM.

You seem to be triggered that your WW wants you

dirty talk to her during sex.

Did your WW want this before the affair. Or is

it something that she has asked you after the affair?

Though great sex is over rated for I have seen

countless stories of people recalling past BF/GF

that was the best sex ever. Though out of the bed

the relationship was so bad that great sex was

not enough to make it work.

Also great sex is not only porn star sex. When

sex is between two people that do not want sex

with anyone else, and they are both left

satisfied is also great sex.

My wife would never admit it but I'm sure sex with her other guy was mind-blowing.

I believe that he does think about her bjs (not her) fondly. The reason I say this is bc up until recently, he couldn't maintain an erection when I would go down on him. Idk if it was guilt or bc he was thinking of her. I asked him and of course he denied thinking of her. But he did tell me that he wasn't in love with her. He was in love with what she did. So, yes, it was good and he told me (when he told me about her, all lies of course and she was a cow flirting with him) that she was telling him what she could do for him and she can do it better than his wife. Since he had already gotten at least 1 bj from her at this point, I honestly believe those were his words, not hers.