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Oh yea, and your former “friend” is a dirtbag POS. If his BGF won’t see the light that’s on her. Good job for exposing. Hopefully you can find some other ways to make his life hell.

How did you find the screenshots being it was so long ago?

[This message edited by LetItBeMan09 at 9:28 AM, January 28th (Sunday)]

She had kept the screenshots of the last time they were planning on being alone. She told him they wouldn't have sex this time because my son had been born about 3 months earlier. She had told him she couldn't keep doing it and needed to change.

I found the screenshots because coincidentally, about a year ago we got our phones changed and all the email accounts on gmail got synced between both phones. I was looking for an email I sent years ago about the sale of our house, I found a grouping of emails she had sent to herself. They were mostly cute pictures of our daughter and us while we dated, then the screenshots.

We had one child during affair, we got a DNA test recently and thankfully he is biologically mine.

MoreThanBroken

So your son could have just as easily been the OM’s kid? It was just luck that she didn’t palm off the OM’s kid onto you? If true that’s much greater betrayal than a simple affair.

That’s like I tried to poison you but grabbed the wrong bottle. You lived so no harm done.

She could have determined who the kid's biological father was immediately after it was born. She could do that without you knowing. All it would take is the OM's DNA and the kids.

Did she do that test? If she didn't then she didn't want to know. She was perfectly happy taking the chance of you loving and taking care of your "friend's" kid as you own. Your "friend" was also OK with it. Talk about being used.

Would your "friend" have been invited to his birthday parties?

There are only two ways that a man can be positive that his wife's kids are also his. One is his wife’s faithfulness (i.e. she would never have sex with another man). The other is DNA. Even if your "friend" wasn't around when your first kid was conceived other men were. You need to DNA your other two kids.

[This message edited by Michigan at 5:35 PM, January 28th (Sunday)]

I agree with Michigan,

Your "wife" is an all time form of low life!

She was having sex with you at the same time as she was having sex with him when she became pregnant. And then carried on until the baby was born!

And when the baby was born, if she did not do a paternity test, how would she be sure that the baby was not his ? So she must have been happy to keep it quiet from you even if the baby was his!!!

A new level in disrespect and evil!

So sorry you are here morethanbroken...

Despite the details many posts have gone over... what is your path at this point?

Do you feel she is truly remorseful? Having not confessed is a huge problem. Moreover blame-shifting or placing any type of blame on you is the opposite of remorse in the cheating world but is actually regret.

Time has covered the stain but it is still there as are the issues... it is as i write many times about infidelity.

Cheating is not about marriage issues or issues with you no matter how blue in the face wayward spouses preach it. Cheating is a product of something that broke inside the cheater, their own internal issues.

The most common cheater response is "you were not or did not do x,y ans z" and thus their logic is, "i cheat because of marriage issues rather than going go to counseling or seeking other helpful or legal options available and will keep it secret because i don't want to share in helping with repairing the issues i am complaining about.."

So if your plan is to work through this, she must put in far more work and get to real remorse through individual help to find what broke inside. I great example of this process is another thread called Dazed and Confused in this forum (currently on page 2)

sending strength.