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As I found out over here, the SOW is a special breed. No real relationships by age 35, chasing a man 20 years older, no respect for marriage as an institution, no self respect running in tandem with self grandiose ideas, no regrets, ticking ovaries, and generally sociopathic per IC. My H found a real winner who only wanted him for what she could use.

What kind of women? STUPID STUPID STUPID women.

Seriously I was single for decades between marriages. I never looked twice at a MM. Not just because I had morals, but to be brutally honest - I was self centered enough not to ever be somebody’s “side piece “.

Amen^^^ 🙌

Age does play into it though. (I dumped mine as soon as I found out, and many do). Older men have life experience and can be very predatory. If you said some of the things they got told to an older woman, she would laugh in your face. It's not an excuse really, just lack of experience and being naive. This of course ONLY applies to OW who don't know the man is married. It takes them a minute longer ot figure it out. I saw a story on here where the guy was married and it was an older woman because his game was on point. She ended up telling the wife everything after she dumped him. It's a predatory thing, not an excuse.

I can tell you what the SOW in my story is. A loser. An ignorant, almost-50 year old who believes in fairy tales and soul mates and finding true love with married men.

She was married and she cheated on her husband for years. They got caught, and (this is what she told my WH) her husband "just couldn't get over it". She also admitted that she never stopped seeing her AP. After she D, and her AP didn't leave his BS, she still kept on seeing him. And then she admitted to my WH that that there was another MM she was "dating" for awhile. When things starting heating up between WH and SOW, she told him all these things, while also telling him that's why she wouldn't get involved with WH. She protested this to him and then kept on talking and flirting, and inviting. While WH was a complete dirtbag and has come to see what a complete and utter asshole he was, she never has.

She believes in fairy tales and all that shit because it's how she was raised. Her mother cheated on her father, they got D and she ended up with her "soul mate". And everyone lived happily ever after. Except, of course, they didn't. But they have to tell themselves these things like "true love" exist because it's the only way they can justify what they do.

They have no morals. They believe that they can take anything they want because they're "special".

Somehow I missed this thread earlier. I have no respect for SOW (or MOW for that matter). They don't respect families, they don't respect other women, and they obviously don't respect themselves.

Hell, SOW over here, she's still trying to get in contact with WH over two and half years later. She's desperate because she's still single and convinced herself that what she and WH had was "true love" and that they were (are)"meant to be together".

Disgusting.

And I apologize right now to the mods for venting about OW in the R forum. I thought I was in the General section.

My bad. I would edit it, but not sure how to do that.

Carrie, its hard not to get a little worked up with a topic like this. If you vented inappropriately, I likely did, too. While i liked the term "COW" for her when i first found SI several years ago, SOW really makes me happy Mine has never been able to get a man to get in deep enough with her to marry. If it wasn't for the fact she knowingly fucked and dated my married H (which she knew), I'd feel great pity for her. But ynder the circumstances, I find pleasure in her misery. She earned it, worked for it. All the sweeter for me. And yes, i can be a heartless bitch when i feel messed with. Come after my kids and i even have one gear remaining to kick up to. a ver touchy topic for most BW.

So SOW is a nut case, a strange one. She's a gynecologist, graduated with honors. (How does one go from that to OW?)

She's a pathological liar, repetitive OW, plenty of men in her life. Mommy and daddy issues, AND she wanted my H to fulfill her fairytale dreams, which are a little expensive.

Update: she's having her baby in 2 days. Thank God not my H's (we know because of the dates). And she's turning into what she didn't want to be:a single mom. Too bad for her. But you can't build happiness from a destroyed family's mystery.

OW was married at some point but single when she met WH. She acknowledged to me that she knew WH was married but thought she was his soul mate and I was an awful person.

In the early days following DDay I found her profile on many dating sites actively looking for married men! Found her on the disgusting site Ashley Madison and she advertised that she didn't mind being "the woman on the side". Really?? Who does that?? I'm convinced that even though she says WH was her soul mate, I think she was with other men at the same time. At one point I seriously wondered if she was possibly a prostitute? Clearly a confused individual who still attempts contact with us occasionally.

The OW in my case besides being a long time best friend was also single. She obviously knew WH was married with a family, but tried to excuse her actions because she was “lonely”. I think now after hearing some of what she did that she was trying to replace me in my family and in her eyes live a life of luxury as WH took care of her.

Oh I know it’s hard not to go full metal jacket on these SOW and COW MOW..

but the question was specifically about SOW 🐷....

Sorry unfortunately one cannot keep trying to justify their actions due to your age.

Age is NOTHING if you have self esteem and morals.. my daughter told her best friend 16 she would stop being friends if she didn’t stop seeing a boy that had a girlfriend that was their friend. My daughter has morals the othe friend doesn’t.... guess what neither does her mother. She was sleeping around with married guys. Yes her husband died but that’s no excuse. Moral of the story... you either have Morals and good boundaries or your screwed up and too selfish. My daughter stopped being friends and talked to the other girl because she was so torn. She had warned her friend to stop but she was to self absorbed and later said he wasn’t “ all that”.

They are now in their 20s my daughter is super adjusted and extremely moral and just. The old girl friend is a future OW. You can see it unless she changes.. maybe if she gets a taste of her own medicine. But it’s sad these mothers have children and they don’t rear them properly and they literally become a cliche... it’s so sad...

That’s a wayward through and through.. All about them.